Women say they want an emotional, sensitive, and intimate guy. And yet, when it comes down to it, women keep going after bad boys, the ones who are selfish, self-absorbed, and avoid all forms of intimacy as if they were infectious diseases.
What a woman wants in a man is a paradox. Even though we’re constantly on the lookout for that super sweet, caring guy who will make a fantastic companion, our hearts are drawn to the guy who ignites our passion. The nice guys are just so…meh.
Here are the five reasons why women don’t go for nice guys:
1. The women don’t think they can do better
My friends frequently ask me why women fall for bad guys. I think this statement isn’t always true. Some women do pick men who will break their hearts. Even though many men disagree and say this is a more significant percentage – this still represents a small percentage of all women in the world.
Some do go for the dirtbags; however, I believe it’s because they believe deep down that they’ll never be able to do better. For some, these men are all they think they deserve. For others, they have been raised in toxic environments, so it’s all that they know. They see the mistreatment and pain as love.
Many women didn’t realize how wrong the person was until it was too late. When you first meet a narcissist, for example, they’re often perceived as very attractive because they put a lot of effort into their appearance.
Other women may have already fallen in love, moved in, or had a baby before knowing they were abused. Isolation from friends happens during the honeymoon phase, so once the abuse starts, it’s hard to get out, which is why it takes on average seven attempts to leave before she goes for good.
2. Nice Guys Are Boring
People fall into the trap that being kind is all you need and lack personality. Have you ever gone on a date with a guy who didn’t have any substance? Women like confident, assertive men (not overbearing or controlling).
I’m independent, but I need an equally confident co-captain. Predictability can get boring. Don’t be outlandish, but be less passive.
3. Some women love danger
It’s dangerous to date guys who are solid and complacent, so we go with assh * les.
Instead of running for the hills, we jump on for the ride. We know they’re bad for us; they’ll never treat us the way we deserve to be treated. Damn, biology!
4. Women want a project
A nice guy doesn’t need taming. Women like to fix them. He’s good at home already. He’s not severe or intense.
As much as we ladies say chaotic personalities aren’t what we’re looking for in a boyfriend, they are. Check out the history.
When a woman is faced with a “bad boy,” she loves the challenge to tame him. His vanity is both intoxicating and angry. He’d have to come down to earth if she could do that.
We’re going to win every time.
5. Nice guys smell like desperation.
They come on too firm, and they don’t get it. If a guy shows interest in a girl and she’s not interested, he has to accept it and keep her as a friend or move on. They’re always the guys’ girls tell their friends about later. “I can’t believe what he said/did last night.”