1. Don’t be afraid to plan out your relationship.
Always be a forward thinker in your relationship. Yes, it’s good to be able to look back and reminisce about the past – you always want to be able to go back to the roots and foundations of your relationship. It’s also good to always be living in the moment – you want to make sure that you don’t take your relationship or granted; that you are always being mindful of the moment that you’re in.
But you must ALSO make it a point to never be thinking about your future. If you want your marriage to last for the long-term, you want to be looking to what’s in store for you and your wife. You always want to be looking to the future so that the both of you have something that you can be working towards.
2. Always express your gratitude and appreciation.
A lot of times, when you get very comfortable with a person and in a relationship, you can take both for granted. And it’s always good that you’re working towards a sense of stability and consistency with your partner. It’s good that you have a relationship with someone who doesn’t really give you too much of a headache. But sometimes, too much stability can lead you to think that you can stop making an effort.
It can lead you to become a little too comfortable. You have to make sure that as a husband, you are doing your part in ensuring that your wife knows that you aren’t taking her for granted. You need to always say “thanks” when your partner is deserving of it. And you should never get tired of saying it to your partner.
3. Try your best to make your partner’s life as easy as possible.
Remember that a marriage is a vow of partnership – and you always have to make sure that you live up to that vow in all aspects of life. You always need to be putting in the effort when it comes to making your life as easy as possible. You always want her to feel like you are always there for her; that you are there to pick up the slack for her whenever she stumbles. You always have to be able to make her feel like she can rely on you even when things seem dire. Even something as simple as doing your share of the chores can mean a lot in your marriage. Try to take some things off her plate just to reassure her that you are always going to meet her needs and expectations.
4. Communicate with your partner often.
Never stop communicating. Never stop talking about each other. Don’t make the mistake of thinking that just because you are already married, you already know everything there is to know about each other. As human beings, you are constantly growing and changing as you make your way through this life. And as a result, your relationship also has to grow and evolve as well.
And so you are never really the same person as the one you were when you got married. You always need to be learning as much as you can about yourselves and about each other throughout the entire stretch of your marriage – and that all comes with having a strong communication game.
5. Pay attention to the details.
Don’t make the mistake of thinking that being in a happy and successful marriage is about having a lot of grand gestures and breathtaking moments. Yes, these have their spots in your marriage. And it’s always good whenever you are able to live up to that Hollywood leading man type of image in your marriage. But ultimately, it’s in the little things. It’s all about being able to pay attention to the details. You need to be able to look at the nitty gritty aspects of your relationship.
You always have to make sure that you aren’t taking the little things for granted. A failure to pay attention to detail would be a sign of complacency and laziness. The more effort you put into staying on top of your relationship, the better things are going to end up panning out for you and your wife.
6. Never be withholding of your love and affection.
And at the end of the day, you just have to love unconditionally and wholeheartedly. Show your partner that there are no limits to how much you’re willing to love her. Prove to your spouse that you are perfectly capable of expressing your love in verbal and physical ways. Never be coy or immature about it. Always try to be open about how you feel. Wear your heart on your sleeve. Let your spouse know that you are never shy or ashamed about letting your love be known. Never miss out on an opportunity to tell your spouse that you love her.