It’s not going to be perfect, and that’s okay.
1. Your expectations for each other might not necessarily pan out the way that you want them to.
The relationship might not turn out the way that you wanted it to and that’s okay. That’s a normal worry to have. You’ve seen it happen countless times before. People go into relationships all happily and then slowly, they grow to resent and hate the situation that they’re in. So you get worried and you think that it might happen to you. Yes, relationships do change and evolve over time. So you can’t expect your relationship to always be at the state of bliss that you might be experiencing now. And that’s fine. Relationships change but that doesn’t mean that they change for the worst. Sometimes, relationships have to change to adapt to become stronger. And those are the best kinds of relationships.
2. You have a partner who seems too good to be true.
You might think that just because things are going so well early on in the relationship, you have a partner who is actually too good to be true. And do you want to know the truth? You’re probably right. Your partner might turn out to be too good to be true. And that’s okay. That’s a perfectly fine thing to worry about in an early relationship. But what you have to keep in mind is this: even if your partner might turn out to have a few flaws here or there, they aren’t necessarily going to have to be deal breakers. No human being is perfect in this world and you still get the choice. You still get to decide if you want to stay with them or not. After all, relationships are always going to be a journey of self-discovery for the both of you. And you just have to be able to adapt.
3. You don’t feel like you are deserving enough to be in this happy relationship.
It’s okay to have a few insecurities about your own self-worth when you land yourself in a happy relationship with someone. This is especially normal for people who have been single for so long or for people have been constantly finding themselves in toxic and terrible relationships. It’s an exhilarating feeling when you land yourself in a happy relationship. And because of how you’ve always been treated in the past, you might think that you aren’t good enough to sustain it. So it’s okay if your mind has a tendency to gravitate towards these thoughts. But you can’t let them cripple you.
4. You get the sense that your partner is going to abandon you once they see who you really are.
As mentioned previously, relationships are always going to be journeys of self-discovery. You are both going to learn more about one another as you grow into yourselves. And it’s okay for you to worry about what your partner may find once you open yourself up. But you just have to keep the faith that your love is actually strong enough to pull you through.
5. You feel insecure that your partner might not really be in love with you after all.
It’s normal to feel like your partner might not necessarily be in love with you despite how they act towards you. You’ve seen it happen in the movies and in real life. Your partner might just be acting a certain way to get you to do things for them. They might only be using you and your emotions for personal gain. And so you grow a slight distrust of your partner because you’re not entirely sure what their intentions are. And it’s okay to be worried about that. You are only trying to stay guarded. You’ve seen how life can be so harsh to people and you don’t want to end up as a victim in this situation. But you also have to acknowledge that love is a risk; and in every situation, no one ever really regrets taking a risk when they find out that a love is true.
6. You think that the relationship just isn’t going to work.
And sometimes, when you gain something that you’ve wanted for yourself for the longest time, the fears start to creep up as well. You are so happy with the love that you have now that you’re willing to do anything to make it work. And you’re scared that you’re going to screw it up and you might let go of the one thing that you’ve always wanted. So to that extent, it’s okay. It’s okay to be worried. We all worry about losing something that we love. And that’s how you know that the love that you have is as precious as can be when you’re actually afraid to lose it.
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