The question continues to plague our mind every waking day of our lives: why can’t I ever seem to find the perfect guy for me? That’s okay. You are not alone. Plenty of people in the past, present, and future go through the same experience. You just can’t seem to manufacture the kind of chemistry with a man that’s going to last. At first you always blamed the guy, or the timing of the situation.
But overtime, with your continua failure, you have leaned towards the possibility that you are the problem in the equation. Is there something wrong with the way you conduct yourself as a person? Are there some blatant flaws in your character, and some buys just can’t get behind these flaws? What improvements can you make to improve your chances of finally landing the man of your dreams?
Know that love can never be predictable and that there are too many variables that come into play when it comes to relationships. Timing and chemistry always has to be perfect in order for a relationship to find success, but sometimes, that’s not even enough. The people involved in relationships have to love each other so deeply, that they are willing to work through whatever obstacles come their way.
This is easier said than done of course. Lastly, the people involved the relationships have to carry with them a certain kind of emotional maturity that allows them to find peace and harmony with another person. Here are some reasons as to why you just can’t manage to find that love you think you desperately deserve:
1. You take yourself and life a little too seriously.
You’re a little too serious for your own good. While yes, people should be taking love and life seriously, there is a limit to that; and there are some exceptions to the rule. Love should never have to feel forced. A romantic spark has to come about naturally and organically.
Whenever you have to force a relationship with someone, then it really isn’t love. Stop trying to manipulate the conditions of a relationship to fit into your own personal perception of what love should look like. You’re only setting yourself up for disappointment when you do so, and it can be a big turn-off to the person you’re dating.
2. Your standards and expectations are too unreasonable.
Stop looking for the perfect man. He doesn’t exist. No human being that has ever walked on the face of this earth has ever been worthy of perfection. Stop idealizing your fantasy man and start being realistic with your expectations.
Know from the start that all relationships are going to be flawed because all people are inherently flawed. You have to have a lot of patience and commitment in order for you to really experience the wonders of a relationship.
3. You don’t accommodate meaningless flings into your life.
While you’re only searching for the kind of love that is real and passionate, that may not be what everybody else is searching for. It can be frustrating when you’re interested in getting into a serious relationship with a man and all he wants is a random hookup.
But that’s the sad truth of life. A lot of people in these modern times aren’t looking for anything serious especially when they’re young. You’re going to have to live with that reality.
4. You think too far ahead than how most people usually do.
You can come off a little too strong when you start envisioning a legitimate future with a person that you’re just starting to date. While there is nothing wrong with daydreaming about what’s in-store for the both of you, it can be quite creepy to be committing yourself to someone so early on in the relationship. Learn to take things slowly and tackle moments one step at a time. Live in the moment and don’t let the present escape you.
5. You aren’t a priority to the people you are interested in.
People have different priorities. That is a truth that you’re just going to have to come to terms with as early as now. Even though you find it very important to be in a serious relationship, a lot of people will not share that sentiment. Whenever you’re interested in someone who just isn’t looking to date anyone at the moment, just move on before you hurt yourself any further.
6. You aren’t a person of interest to the guy you want to date.
It’s that simple really. Not much explanation needed. All people have different tastes, and bad luck for you when the person you’re interested in just isn’t interested in you. Just salvage what’s left of your ego and find another potential mate.
7. You weren’t meant for dating boys.
You are meant for dating a man. You just have to persist in your patience. Wait for the right man to come along. Wait for the man who is mature enough to know that you are the girl who he can build a future with. Let love come to you, and stop forcing yourself to find it in terrible places.
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