7 Signs Your Partner is Having an Affair With Someone Else

Let us put aside the idea of a perfect world where people love their partners honestly, with all their heart and would never ever cheat on them, where all relationships are successful and no hearts are broken, where there are no tears but only smiles and where two people live happily ever after. The real world is way too different; people get bored, they cheat, trust is broken and hearts are shattered. Keeping a reality check on your love life is important. We are not living a fairy-tale where everything heals by pouring some stardust; ashes are real and so are heartbreaks. We are not advising you to doubt your partner all the time, but if you notice a negative change in their actions or reactions, then trying to have some surety about things won’t do any worse.

It can be you whose partner is secretly spending time with someone else while apparently dating you. It can always be you. If you have been having some arguing and eye-rolling kind of experiences with your partner lately, then there is obviously a crack in your relationship. It is your job to find out where the crack is and what shook your relationship that caused the crack. It is not a dramatic thing to say that maybe your partner is tired of you, maybe they are not having a good time with you or, maybe, they are seeing someone else. As we said, it is not an ideal world we live in. Your partner can cheat on you, it IS a possibility. So if you observe their behavior to be bizarre or unusual, we suggest you try to find out if they are seeing someone else.

They will not want to confront you, obviously–that’s what cheating is–but YOU have to find out because if you don’t, it would be unfair to you. Treating them like royalty when they are secretly spending time with someone else is something you would never want to do. So if you see some of these 7 signs in your partner, then it’s high time you clear things up with them.

1. They Take Longer to Call or Text You Back:

If they take too long to text you back or return a call, then there are chances of them cheating on you. In the dating period, you get to know how quick they are at replying to your texts and how long it takes them to get back to you on a phone call. If that is changed and they deliberately take hours to text you back, there is enough space for doubt to arise. It does not take too much time to reply to a text and even if they are actually busy, it won’t be once or twice. Repetition of late response is a sign for you.

2. They Come Home Late From Work:

This one may sound like a dramatic and typical sign but people actually make excuses like “There’s a lot of work today” and “I may have to spend the night” when they want to sneak out for something bad. It is also one of the very old excuses. It is really stupid of them to use it but it can be a signal for you to be in charge and find out what’s happening, especially if it starts happening frequently. If your partner is cheating on you and spending time with someone else, they are aware of the fact that either you won’t question them about the time they spend at the office or you are too shy to call their boss and ask them about it.

3. They Take a Bath As Soon As They Get Home:

Their sudden habit of getting into the shower as soon as they return from work or somewhere else maybe because of the new person they are spending time with. This sign may not be very common but if you notice them becoming a shower-fanatic, then there are chances they want to get rid of the smell of the person they were with.

4. They Are Not As Loving As They Used to Be:

You’ve started to notice that they’re not as generally-loving as they used to be. You see it in everything they do, you feel it in the way they look at you, you hear it in their voice, you experience it with the way they talk to you.

5. They Get You Presents Without Any Occasion:

This one can be a little tricky. It can be difficult for you to tell if they are getting you presents out of love or if they want to cover their guilt. Even if they are being dishonest and spending time with someone else, they might feel the guilt at times and try to cover it up with some extra gifts out of the occasion. It is one of the possibilities; do not always be doubtful. It is your task now to decide whether they are being generous out of love or if their behavior has changed in the last couple of weeks.

If there is something you caught them with and now they want to make you believe that it was all a misunderstanding, they actually may be trying to cover it up by those gifts. So, assess the recent events, change in their tone and habits and then decide. If not sure, confront them politely. Talking always helps and it may turn out that they only wanted to make you feel good by giving all those presents. Or, it may turn out that they finally start talking and reveal to you the news.

6. They Pay More Attention to Self-Grooming:

If your partner is usually not too interested in looking good, but they suddenly starting paying too much attention to their looks, maybe they are either trying to impress someone (which may be you or) other than you or have already impressed someone. Self-grooming is a normal thing to do for anybody, but if they never had a problem going out with a gray shirt and blue jeans but perfectly dress up now before going out, there is someplace for planting your doubt. If not dresses then it can be anything new they start doing that they never did before, like using a deodorant or caring too much about their hair.

7. They Avoid Eye-Contact:

When your partner is cheating on you, they’ll try their best to avoid eye-contact with you. This is because the eyes are the window to the soul, they speak volumes about us. When you look into someone’s eyes, you get a certain feeling or vibe from them instantly – that’s you seeing through them. Because of their guilt, a cheating partner would never want to expose their horrible reality by looking you in the eyes.

Conclusion

All these signs are the most common ones that can help you tell if your partner is seeing or sleeping with someone else. Cheating is terrible and living with someone who is not trustworthy is not healthy, let alone acceptable. You are not bound to spend time with someone who is cheating on you with someone else. Cheaters need to be confronted and thrown out of life.

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    1. Almost 40 years together. I feel He is having a affair for about 4 years. But I can’t prove it. It’s killing me and my anxiety and depression is so high I can’t find out how to caught him.except. I feel it.

    2. Been with my husband for 31 years. Last year 4 days before my 50th he confirmed that he had been with my very own sister. I questioned it for years as I was told” I would never do something that horrible to you, your the love of my life”. She would say “He’s the devil” now that I have completely have NO CONTACT with either of them. I’m seeing more and more! He was even with her best friend!! I’m now convinced he was sleeping with WHOEVER age could! Ya. Heartbroken for sure! I’m now 51 learning how to be my own person and alone. I don’t know how I will ever trust again..,

    3. I go through it daily ,constant excuses but I’m delusional n crazy for calling him out on the shit I see him do constantly , phone is glued to him constantly on it turns back towards me to text ,as soon as I walk out of room he is on it claims he doesn’t do Facebook that much but as soon as I’m out of room or go to work loook who’s active n ignores my texts hmmm! So much more I could right a book

  1. I knew right away my BF was cheating on me. Men think that us woman are so stupid. We know before they do sometimes. Then you get that text in messenger from the one he is cheating with. But by this time I already knew everything. So all I can do is laugh at the other girl and let her know I knew. So of course she is being rude to me like if it was my fault but she knew he had a girlfriend and knew we lived together so why be mad at me. He was the one that played her for a fool. He begged me not to leave him. But I’m still undecided on what to do. I’m to old to play these games with any man. I know the kind of woman I am. I do not seek revenge nor will I go do what he did just to get back at him. He knows what a dumb ass he his cause I’m the best he ever had. Does not matter what you do for them or how good in bed you are with them they still want to go explore. There are so many more clues out there to be aware of if your man is cheating.

    1. If someone is cheating its time we understand the under lying reason. It could be due to some past hurt and further distancing. To get back the spouse instead of raising the fingers ignore the matter for the time being and spend time in reestablishing the connection. Catch u r spouse doing good. Never get provoked. Check out fifty things to loose a marriage just to avoid those mistakes. Win back spouse with gifts, surprises and good humour sense. U r spouse will come back to u when they feel and not when u feel. They will not come back a minute before that. Develop clear vision about perverted relationship. Discuss it wherever u can, but never raise a finger at u r spouse. Win them back to feel powerful. Drop u r ego. Ignore all the emotional hurts that r going to come u r way. Patience and forgiveness r bound to bring results if not u can be happy that u atleast tried. Never be the first to give divorce. Let the other half have a hard time getting it from u. Meanwhile set a time frame like a year and be hard working to save the relationship. Try to connect each second with the spouse.

  2. I think the number 1 sign is his phone if you dont have his unlock code to his phone ..and if you try to use his phone and he starts an argument..there u have it..see how simple that was?‍♀️

      1. Why not share it? U never know when u might need it. (Emergency) i agree, Most, of the time it does mean theres something being hidden…

      2. That’s red flag, if everything was so plain, then what’s wrong in having each other’s phone code. Check his/her phone and you might just be shocked.

      3. You’re absolutely right regarding phone codes. We have them and we’re not cheating. Our reason for having them are our children and if phone is lost.

  3. I found a girls bracelett in his house, he claims he has no idea how it got there. I asked him and he keeps telling lies. Im so heart broken

  4. I had my husband’s passcode , we were super happy n all lovey dovey n I found out he was cheating on me still . With sum ex girlfriend. This all happened while he was nice, things were good . So in reality most men are dogs n ladies men don’t cheat to fall In love they cheat cause girls now days have no respect and they throw them selves at any man that looks half descent. it’s only a nasty piece of ass know your worth, love urself first and always put urself first.
    Men only think with one head. Unfortunately the smaller one.

    1. Hi I’m with some that I think is cheating with his ex with his kids every time I go to see him he gives me a hug but as he’s doing that he wispers some 1 name in my ear and we can be have a laugh again womens names hes whispering he denys this but I can ear all the time I. Earing names so annoying as usual denys wot should I do

  5. How about on the phone constantly and when you walk into the room they get rid of their phone. I texted my otheral about 45mins ago and no reply. I’m tired of all of this crap

  6. I believe the signs are true. But they are true for both male and female. Women are worse than men because it’s easier for us to hide. Fortunately, women are smarter than the average 🐻 but unfortunately that gives us other smart women a bad name when the man they’re with starts to smarten up to her hidden antics. Thus, leaving him to do the same, because in his mind all women are the same, and vice versa. We all are the same, yet in so many different ways. We can’t always think men are the bad ones because women are worse. We just get away with it, that or, men are to embarrassed to admit they were taken for less than their worth. We are all worth something and more than we believe ourselves to be. Blesses Be to all.

  7. I think you just have to sto texting and pursuing him…see his momentum, if he us regular or not, how often he calls and texts… you can then decide if he is really having an affair or not… his communication skills will be the best proof if he is cheating or not.

  8. Cheating is terrible . I’m the ideal world why just not leave instead of hurting that person . Karma don’t forget especially if you’re a good person . Leave it all up to God and move on to a better life. It hurts and shocking but you will get over and find someone who will love you .

  9. All the 7 points are true, l don’t even know my husband’s phone code since the day l touched his phone and saw some messages from his girlfriend and pictures, he changed his code so now he goes with his phone to the toilet he even bath with his phone

    1. Same with me.. No code since I found out he has pictures and voice messages he sent to many women
      His phone is always off if I am around
      I have kicked him out but he came back after a week saying he want to talk, I refused to talk. He was a mess when he came. I gave him the silent treatment because he told me I must not question him cos he is a man,he also told me his phone must not be touched. I now have a code on my phone,I told him my phone is my phone. There is no trust,no openness,no constructive communication. It’s a very toxic relationship. I do what he do and keep quiet

      1. Why waste your life doing all that petty crap. I hate that women hate being treated that way yet stay…. Really he gave those ultimatums and you listen?? Lol you are not hurting him by doing it back because he now will have more leeway to do as he pleases and please who he wants without you being nosey. You are worth way more than that…. I would have kicked his a** to the curb and laughed.

  10. Not at all, see what happens when you ask to exchange codes. I have my wife’s and she has mine. I leave my phone out and so does she. I have nothing to hide, nor does she.

  11. First off, my wife sent me this, and none of it is true. I own a mobile detailing buisness. I therefore work alot of diffrent hours depending on the customer , and the times there avalible. I always text my other half back within 10-20 min tops! I also invite her to come along to any of my jobs she wants too. I’m not hiding anything. She has my phone password. I leave it out all night as we use it to watch TV. I do not go anywhere without her unless it’s work , or to run to acme or the gas station for things we need. I work on my cars alot. Amd my attitude has gotten worse, because she yells and gets mad over everything I do. If I’m downstairs on the car. And it reaches 11:30pm , I get told I’m not allowed back in. ( her mother’s home ) and if the phone dies. She knows where I am and can simply walk down stairs and check on me at anytime. I constantly get accused of cheating. I put a live camera up at my job , so she can watch or check on me at any time. And she still accusing me. I get on my phone to look at rc vehicles it’s my hobby. And frequently marketplace beings I’m always looking for deals or cheap cars. However, never have anything to hide. We don’t have sex often because I am on a medication that removes my testosterone. I can only be eroused when taking male enhancers. I need to get a testosterone test , hear the testosterone is expensive and we dont have lots of money. No excuses but if I get yelled at for working on the cars. And for being on marketplace while using the restroom , how do YOU expect me to perform in bed when your angry with me. Call me names. Pos , cheat , pig ect. I have never gave a reason for non trust. Plus she has called my workplace and told my partner amd boss ( thanks for stealing my man ) because sometimes on the auto industry we run into problems and have to stay late. Being a buisness owner I have to put alot into my company. So before agreeing with these statements. Be sure your not crazies and overthink. Or accuse anyone if there are no facts. If we prove you wrong on every accusation…. don’t you think enough is enough ? Or maybe lay off a bit and be kind and see what happens. Can’t engage into intimacy with stress and nervousness of getting kicked out or screamed at when your asked to stop in someone else’s house

    1. Why don’t you want to leave? The situation doesn’t sound too nice or inviting…whew!!!!

  12. Unfortunately the matters to this subject are if truths. Social media has become a number one tell tell in the subject now days. Her /his phone says it all. People have lost the point of relationships. When things get tough and times get hard or its time to slow down a bit. This can’t be accepted. And so they move on to see if the grass is greener on the other side and venture there. In some and all abusive cases it’s best. But fir financial gain and supply it’s abuse and natistic behavior and that’s a number one to look out for when entering a relationship. These people know the ropes and know all the traits and it’s difficult to come across because they know just what they want from you and know just when to get out because you can no longer feed there traits. Never take back these kind of people. They only come back stronger and know how to slip in. Be warned. If you have nothing in common with some one the relationship will never work. Mr experience

  13. My husband always not free with his phone,but prefers to use mine.
    I caught him having an only fans of big b**bs ladies as an Instagram content ..
    That left me really devastated!
    Even though he deleted the account with a lot of followings.
    Not sure I can ever get to trust him.
    No matter the good he does.

    1. Ashley, it’s nearly the same situation over here… I do understand how you feel! we’ve been together for 30 years now, and after discovering a similar situation by accident (don’t have his phone password) I feel so old and unworthy, my self-confidence is broken. Don’t know how I can trust him again, he said he deleted everything, but I don’t get access to his phone. Changed my own password now. But that doesn’t help me being hurt so badly…

  14. I knew my husband been cheating for a couple months confronted him he just said I was crazy but then finally got proof then he admitted to it said he would not do it again tht I should give him another chance he would not mess it up so i did . Well he didn’t stop w her he continues it and thinks I don’t know . She is married as well I txtd her told her I was gna tell her husband and when I told her stuff she messaged my guy right away and I’m the one tht got in trouble I’m the crazy person it’s my fault. I treat him like a king he gets everything he wants and is catterd to don’t know y he has to cheat

  15. My own husband is cheating, I know that, but whenever I caught him red handed, he will start giving me excuses, like l’m the one pushing him to do it, that when he told me not to be wearing pants whenever I wanted to sleep, I do not hear, I didn’t wear it, but if I forget to remove it before bedtime,,,, it’s another problem.

  16. Mine is that, we my husband are in Long Distance. He worked in a cruiseline and im a full time mom. We have two kids. I sometimes wondered when he’s home during his vacation or end of contract, he always falls to sleep, his fon is silent but i can use too. Sometimes i can feel like he’s avoiding me, he lays down not close to me or even when we’re close in bed he’s busy on the phone watching vedios on social media or youtube either he uses my phone or him.
    And about intimacy, rare.. i mean once a week or trice a month.
    His usual vacation is 1½ months then back to work again since he has scheduled when his SIGN IN and off.
    Im jealous with his time, he only have a little time spent together than his work, his usual contract was 9 mos and now 5mos.
    My husband is a Chef, (chef de partie). Sometimes i tried myself to understand that maybe he’s just tired from his work.
    I havent caught him in his phone with someone else texting, calling or messaging but there was a time i saw his gmail sexy women with big boobs and butt from other country. I was feeling insult when seeing that my husband might watching them online live or anything.
    Now, im still in the situastion that jealous occur everytime he came his cabin late and drunk..

  17. I agree on these signs. VERY VERY SAD IN THE PART OF MAN IF HIS WOMAN IS CHEATING HIM.

  18. For the last couple of months we started having a lot of arguments. I caught him chatting to a woman on Instagram the most vulgar and sexual things and the had sex. She is married and they even met at the bokkie park with her little daughter. The met at a coffee shop and always wait for a Monday to get together. He even went to her house and got undressed when she told him she is 3min away. This Friday I got hold of his phone ans again they made plan to both get telegram and chat on it. He says to her I love you vanessa Westraad which is our surname and she said she is going to practice it and send it to him.

    I have her phone number should I call her?

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