How do we tell whether a love is real or not? Is there a way to gauge the validity of one’s romantic love? Is it even possible to judge someone else’s love affair? The truth to the matter is that there’s no definite way of telling.
A lot of times, people fall into the trap of thinking they’re experiencing true love even when they’re not. There are some cases wherein the blurred lines of extreme infatuation and intimacy can feel a lot like love, but it isn’t quite at that level yet. Romantic love is a phenomenon that has existed since the dawn of human civilization; it has served as the favorite subject of many of our greatest artists, poets, and musicians. It has the spell-binding effect of inducing absolute elation and joy in the hearts of many. It’s what many of us choose to wake up every morning for.
How do we tell whether a love is real or not? Is there a way to gauge the validity of one’s romantic love? Is it even possible to judge someone else’s love affair? The truth to the matter is that there’s no definite way of telling. However, by the power of observation and social analysis, there are established patterns that can give us a good idea of what real love looks like. Here are 7 things that let you know you are experiencing real love:
1. You start letting them penetrate the fabric of your thoughts.
At this stage, the other person is starting to establish himself/herself in your mind as a credible threat to your emotional shield. You begin to think to yourself thoughts that you’ve never had before. You have developed a sense of particular interest in this person and this is the foundation that you are going to eventually build upon in your stages of romantic infatuation. This initial stage of romantic entanglement can be particularly scary to people who are inexperienced in love or are afraid of their own emotions. Nevertheless, you rarely ever get to control when someone suddenly piques your interest.
2. You find yourself unable to control your thoughts whenever they linger on him/her.
It’s out of your control. You find yourself constantly thinking about him/her but you really can’t help it. The worst part is that the moment when they surprisingly show up in your mind, you can do very little to get them out of it. Secretly, you love thinking about them because it gives you a funny feeling of contentment and happiness inside. You start feeling giddy even though you would never admit it. The feeling is uncontrollable, but for the most part, you really don’t mind. In fact, you’re excited at the prospect of these new feelings and experiences. – Continue reading on the next page
3. You start getting a clearer picture of him/her.
Contrary to popular belief, when you start falling in love with a person, you don’t really paint an idealized picture of him/her in your head. When you genuinely start falling in love with someone, you start seeing the nuances and particulars of their personality. You see them for who they really are, flaws and shortcomings included. You acknowledge their vulnerabilities because you understand that this is part of what makes them human. And also, you know that the more clearly you see this person, the more you’re going to fall in love.
4. You are caught in a stage of hope, uncertainty, and in-suppressible urges.
There are so many prospects to what you’re feeling, you don’t even know where to start. For most people, they get scared. These emotions are tricky, and they leave you feeling susceptible to pain and disappointment. For other people, they are filled with uncontainable amounts of hope. For some, the uncertainty of the situation puts them in a state of mild anxiety, but also excitement. But the common thing that binds all of these people is that they experience urges that are insuppressible.
5. You get a rush of energy at the thought of your infatuation.
It’s like a drug that you can’t get enough of. It’s like what caffeine does to a caffeine addict. You get an instant jolt of energy whenever you think about your prospect of romance. It makes you face the day with more rigor and zeal for living. You are happy about where you are in life and nothing could change that about you for the moment. – Continue reading on the next page
6. You experience occasional cases of jealousy and motivation.
Jealousy is a normal aspect of any relationship, particularly newer ones. You’re experiencing a very fresh love and you don’t know what to do with it yet. You don’t know what parts of it that you own, and what parts of it are entitled to you and you alone. You get occasional doses of jealousy, and you don’t know how to act on this feeling. What you do know is that you’re motivated to fight for that person to stay in your life and fulfill your romantic urges.
7. You are left helpless to this feeling that has taken a hold of you.
You’re just helpless. You’ve lost complete control. You don’t know what to do and where to go inside the depths of your soul. You’re left bare and vulnerable and there’s nothing you can do about it. But we know the truth, you secretly love it.
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