As you guys know, I was single for over a year after being cheated on. Here’s what I learned during that time…
Being single isn’t as bad as so many people make it out to be. In fact, there are many perks and benefits that come with living that single life for an extended period of time. Most young adults don’t realize that most of them have actually been single for a huge bulk of their lives. Yes, a lot of people can look down on those who virtually can’t land themselves in relationships, but you should never victimize yourself in such a manner.
You have to remember that just because you are single doesn’t automatically mean that you are unlovable. Just because you are single doesn’t mean that people don’t like being around you. In fact, you should remain proud of the fact that you’re single because it means that you love yourself too much to just settle for anyone who happens to express the slightest interest in you. Granted, you might have to battle some occasional bouts with loneliness every so often, but hey, even people in relationships can still feel lonely. Loneliness is not a feeling that is exclusive only to single people. And you have to remember that just because you aren’t in a relationship doesn’t entail perpetual loneliness on your part.
You just might be someone who really enjoys your alone time and that’s great. You always find something that you can keep yourself busy with. You are never idle and that’s why you don’t wallow in your own singlehood. There is always something to do. You have just as exciting a life as a lot of other people in relationships would have.
When you’ve been single for a while, you will gain so much wisdom and knowledge about who you are and what life has to offer you. You are going to be given the opportunity to really work on your confidence and grow into the person you’re meant to be. And when you do meet the person you’re meant to be with for the rest of your life, you won’t necessarily grow to be dependent on them because you are already reliant on yourself. And that’s only one of the few things that you learn about yourself when you’ve been single for a while.
1. You don’t have a fear of being alone.
When you’ve been single for quite a while, you will no longer have to fear being alone. You’ve picked up a few skills along the way that have enabled you to fend for yourself. You can find joy, happiness, and fulfilment whether you’re in a relationship or not.
2. You don’t feel the need to ask much help from other people when solving your problems.
You know how to get things done on your own. You don’t get rattled whenever you are faced with a difficult task. You are so used to dealing things on your own that you don’t need to call on others to help get things done on your behalf.
3. You are perfectly fine with doing things on your own.
You have the confidence to just go out and have dinner or watch a movie by yourself. You don’t feel the insecurity of having to do things on your own because you are so comfortable with it already.
4. You build your independence and individuality.
Your sense of individuality is going to be strengthened significantly when you are single for a long time. When you get into a relationship, there will be a tendency for you to blur the things that make up who you are. But as a single person, you can really take the time to polish the things that make you unique.
5. You get the chance to be selfish and no one will blame you for it.
You get to go after your dreams regardless of what other people think. You get to do things that you want without having to think of how other people feel about it. You are free to be selfish and no one can say anything about it.
6. You get a greater sense of who you are and what your principles are.
The more time that you have to yourself, the better your understanding of who you are will be. You will be given the chance to really focus on who you are and what you’re made of when you’re single.
7. You start going after the things that you want.
When you are a single person, you have more time to go after the things that you want than you would in a relationship. There’s no denying that you are going to have to share a lot of your time with your partner in a relationship. Not that that’s a bad thing. It just means your time won’t entirely be your own anymore.
8. You grow to discover what you’re really looking for in love.
And the better that you understand who you are as a single person, you will be put in a position to discover more about what you’re really looking for in a love affair. You will know what to look for in a partner and it will make finding love in the future so much easier.
Talk to me
Do you agree? Talk to me in the comments below!