9 Things You Discover About Yourself When You’ve Been Single For So Long
Things being single has taught me.
1. You discover just how many things you can get done by yourself.
You have no choice. You’re on your own and so you have to do things without anyone else’s help. That’s not necessarily a bad thing though. When you are forced to do things on your own, you really start to learn just how much you can get done by yourself. You will be surprised at your own capacity to make it through this life alone.
2. You discover more of what you are really looking for in the bedroom.
When you’re not in a committed relationship with someone, you get the opportunity to really play the field. You get the chance to just engage in casual relationships with different kinds of people. And the more that you expose yourself to different kinds of people who bring different styles into the bedroom, the more you really get to figure out just what it is you want in the sack.
3. You discover just how important it is for you to pursue your goals.
You have so much extra time on your hands whenever you’re single. You don’t have to devote too much time to your partner or your relationship because they don’t exist. And so with all that extra time, you want to keep yourself productive. And if you are smart about it, you will pour all of that time into the pursuit of your goals. And when you do that, you will understand the fact that the more time you devote to something, the more that you’re going to get out of it.
4. You discover just how disgusting you really are.
Being in a relationship with someone can be such a huge motivator to clean up your act. When you are with someone you love, you want to do whatever you can to impress them. You really make an effort to just present your best self whenever you are with them. But when you’ve been single and alone for so long, you might relax a little bit – almost to a point of complete complacency. You won’t make an effort to clean up after yourself as much – and you’re going to learn to discover just how disgusting you really are on the inside.
5. You discover what kind of people you are really attracted to.
When you haven’t been in a relationship for the longest time, then you get to play the field a little bit. You get to date around and you get to meet so many different kinds of people. Some of them you will like, some of them you won’t. And in that process of getting to know so many different kinds of people, you will also get a chance to really get to know yourself as well; and what it is you’re really looking for in prospective partners.
6. You discover what you really want to get done in this life.
When you’re alone, you get the ultimate opportunity to really devote yourself to your own self-discovery. You will be forced to really think about what kind of mark you are making in this world and what kind of legacy you are looking to leave behind. You will become incredibly focused on how you are conducting yourself in this life and whether you should be doing anything more.
7. You discover your stance on family planning and parenthood.
When you’re single and you don’t really have a relationship or a partner to think about, you start to think about other aspects of life. For instance, you might think about your career, your hobbies… and sometimes, you might even come to think about what your future family is going to look like. And the more that you think about it, the more you will find out about what it is you’re looking for when it comes to establishing a family of your own in the long run.
8. You discover just how tolerant you can be for toxic people.
It’s either your tolerance for toxic people can increase or decrease; but either way, when you’ve been single for a long time, you do a better job at managing toxic people. It’s either you get so used to them that you no longer let their toxicity affect you negatively anymore. Or you just become a better judge of toxic people and you deliberately disassociate yourself from them automatically.
9. You discover how strong of a human being you are after all.
It’s through adversity where we really become strong as individuals. Nothing forces us to confront what we’re made of more than being thrust into a compromising predicament – especially when it’s one that you have to face on your own. But the thing about being single for so long is that you really learn just what kind of person you’re made of; and when that happens, the problems of the future won’t faze or rattle you as much anymore.
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