Incompatibility is spreading like wildfire, and it’s affecting a lot of relationships. A good relationship is supposed to enhance your life, make you happier, boost your self-confidence, make you believe more decisive in your own decisions, and everything else valuable for life becomes more apparent. That’s what a good relationship does; a bad relationship does everything the exact opposite.
This article will focus on ten kinds of situations; if you’re in any of these situations, consider it as a warning and be cautious because you may be with the wrong person. How do you know you’re with the wrong person?
Here are eight warning signs you’re with the wrong person.
1. They keep reminding you of the past
You will find some people who will try to bring you down by any means necessary. Why? Because they’re not happy in their own lives or they envy yours. They’ll remind you constantly of your past mistakes, even if you’ve changed and are a new person.
They won’t let you change; they’ll make you think and believe you can never change, and you’ll always repeat your mistakes. You do not need this negative energy to pull you back into the dark times you came out of once. Using someone’s past to attack them is one of the cheapest of attacks, and if your “partner” uses it against you, for whatever reason, you don’t need more ideas to find someone better.
2. They always lie to you
Bad people lie; they lie to hide their own mistakes. Wicked people will lie to you more than once, either to take the blame off of their heads or to make you think about something that doesn’t exist for whatever evil reason they have. A relationship is based on a solid boundary of trust and loyalty.
I’ve written countless articles and rules on faith, and I can’t stress enough. A lie is a lie, no matter how small. The smallest of lies lead to the biggest of mistakes. If they genuinely love you, they can’t lie to you.
3. They don’t respect your time
Are you in a relationship where you spend all your time on your partner, and the same isn’t being done in return? Do they often tell you they’re occupied with something or the other? Do you feel like they only spend time with you when they see fit and when it’s convenient for them? Something that’s much more important than you?
I’ve said this many times: it’s all about priorities. If they genuinely love you, it doesn’t matter how busy they are; they’ll take out enough time for you to see you smile, and they will never make you feel like you’re being ignored or there’s something more important than they’re doing. I have a business, she knows about it, I still NEVER let her feel it, and she gets sufficient time because I’d rather stay single than break someone’s heart.
4. They don’t respect your dreams
Relationships are supposed to help you achieve your goals and reach your dreams and ambitions, not the other way around. If you’re with someone who continually tries to bring you down or tries to tell you that you have far-fetched aspirations and dreams, you’re not with the right person. The reason they’re doing this isn’t that they hate you, it’s because they hate their own lives and they never had the luxury to dream like you.
5. You feel suffocated
Are you in a relationship that feels suffocating? Does that feel like a trap? Like a cage? Where do you feel like you can’t speak your mind? Where does the thought of self-expression cause a shiver down your spine? I’ve been down that road. It’s a horrible feeling. It’s one of the worst feelings when you have to keep something inside. Find someone who lets you speak your mind and still loves you for it.
6. They want to change you
I’ve talked about this before; nobody has the right to take your individuality from you. You are a fantastic individual, beautiful and perfect in your way and design, and no one can take that away from you.
Your partner should love you for everything you are and never try to change you into something you’re not. If you’re with someone who continually tries to mend your ways or to change you, find someone who appreciates you and cherishes your individuality.
7. They’re sucking the life out of you
No matter how positive of a person you are, if you’re with someone who’s very harmful and evil, they will rub off their evil and negativity on you. You’re slowly going to start thinking like them and talking like them.
You will go from being a happy person to someone you would never want to be. If you’re in a relationship where you feel like your energy is being drained from you daily, free yourself from the torment.
8. They disregard your abilities
Someone who truly loves you will always strengthen your skills and make you stronger. A negative person will slowly take your skills away from you; they’ll make you feel low about yourself, they’ll make you feel like you don’t amount to anything, you don’t want that kind of “love” in your life, you’re better than that. Be with someone who makes you feel like you’re unique in your way because you are.
My girlfriend tries her best to make me feel good about the things I do, the things I love, my abilities, and my life in general, so for my birthday, she hand-painted a life-sized Relationship Rule for me. I couldn’t have asked for a better present. I’m not going to lie, guys, I cried. Check it out.
Have you been in similar situations? I love hearing from you; please share your experiences with me in the comments below. As always, stay blessed and keep the love alive.
I had to walk away from such most recently where I needed to explain myself daily where my feelings were always disregarded worse was my confidence was dampen by him using words like I think highly of myself 💔💔
Good for you, glad you left him. That wasn’t a man… that was a man who never grew up, he’s still a boy! It’s one thing to be down and striving to build yourself up with your family’s help… that is a person who just needs a little help untill they get on their feet. Then there is your EX who is taking hand outs, letting your mom baby him and support him, when he is a grown ass man who shouldn’t be depending on mommy and daddy anymore.
Then the way he was treating you. yelling at you and brushing it off like it is nothing… again very immature. A real man has patience and will not yell at his woman, but if he does he will acknowledge the mistake and try to do better. Find someone who respects you and that values you but more importantly values himself and is a independent hard worker. You also have to add value to the mans life, be his peace, nurturing, caring, loving…. don’t let that boy ruin your future relationship. A good man will give a woman like that the world and will work had to provide them a beautiful life.