You can debate all you want about whether it would be a good idea to reach out to your ex or not. In some cases, it all works out for the better. And in some cases, it makes the situation worse. And in other cases, it doesn’t really have an effect at all on the broken nature of your relationship. So, it all really depends on who you are and what kind of breakup and relationship you had with your ex in the first place. However, if you really do choose to reach out, what really matters is the manner in which you’re going to contact your ex.
Breakups can really have a significant impact on a person’s emotional and mental well-being. Sometimes, a breakup can be so traumatic and significant that it ends up compromising a person’s better judgment. If your intention is to maintain healthy ties with your ex; or perhaps you want to rekindle that flame, you need to be very careful with how you approach things. You can’t let your feelings drive your decisions because you might end up regretting whatever moves you end up making.
If you’re planning on texting your ex, but you don’t really know how you’re going to approach it, then this article is going to be perfect for you. By the time you finish reading this article, you will grow to understand the many IMPROPER ways you can go about reaching out to your ex via text message. Remember that you always need to maintain a sense of self-respect after a breakup; and sometimes, being reckless with your texts can make you come off as weak, needy, or just plain sad.
Here are 9 text messages you should NEVER send to your ex:
1. How heartbroken you are about the breakup.
If you are going to tell your ex just how broken you are about the two of you breaking up, you are going to be asking for a world of hurt. First of all, you are giving up a position of power – and it’s likely they will capitalize on this. And you are essentially inviting them to just hurt you even further.
2. A loaded message that is made to look casual.
It’s really going to come off so desperate and obvious. You try to text your ex something casual like a random “hi” or “how are you?” but then what you’re really saying is that you can’t get them out of your head.