Is he too toxic for you?
Ladies, don’t you ever dare think that you should just settle for being in a toxic relationship. You deserve to be in a magical relationship that gives you butterflies in your stomach. You deserve to be with a man who makes your heart skip a beat; who makes your knees weak; who makes you laugh even when you don’t want to smile. You deserve to be with a true gentleman who puts you needs above his own. You should never allow yourself to get stuck in a relationship that crushes your soul. You deserve to be treated with utmost love and care. Don’t succumb to the kind of thinking that makes you believe that you are better off in a crappy relationship than being single.
That’s not true. If you find that your boyfriend is bringing a lot of toxicity in your life, then you should dump him and find someone better. There are literally billions of other options out there for you. You don’t have to settle for this one man. You don’t have to keep making excuses for him. The trouble is that out of desperation, you might trying to rationalize his bad behavior. You might try to convince yourself that he’s actually not that bad even though he really is. You might try to justify his rude character and personality. Don’t. You should not dare make that mistake. Hold on to your pride and dignity and demand to be treated better.
If he refuses to oblige, then just walk away. Don’t try to force the issue with him any longer. Take a stand and you will come out better and stronger because of it. Here are a few ways that your man is actually really toxic even when you think he isn’t.
1. He flirts with other girls.
If you’re in a relationship with a man, there is no reasonable excuse for him to be flirting with other girls. He should commit to you and you alone. If he’s still trying to play around with other women, then maybe you should rethink the relationship.
2. He calls you crazy.
You’re not crazy. He’s just trying to deflect. Sure, you have your crazy moments, but you must remember that you’re not crazy. You shouldn’t fall into his trap of trying to deflect unto you whatever accusations you are hurling at him.
3. He doesn’t handle his alcohol well.
He shouldn’t be drinking so much if he can’t handle his alcohol well. You should only be dating with a man who is mature enough to control his alcohol intake. If he has a mental health issue or if he is battling with addiction, then you have to encourage him to seek professional help.
4. He makes you cry on a constant basis.
Relationships aren’t always supposed to be constant happiness. There will be some rough patches. There will be some tough times. But it shouldn’t ALWAYS be bad. You shouldn’t ALWAYS be in tears. You deserve to have a guy who makes you smile so much more than when he makes you cry.
5. He has crazy fits of jealousy.
Sure, he should be allowed to get jealous when there is a cause for it. But if he’s just acting like a needy boyfriend who wants your attention, then you should walk away. You deserve someone more mature than that.
6. He tells you how to dress.
He shouldn’t be taking away your freedom. You have your own mind. You have your own limbs. You are able to dress yourself fine. He shouldn’t be telling you how to express yourself even in the form of your apparel. – Continue reading on the next page
7. He forces you into sex even when you’re not in the mood.
You should never, under any circumstances, be forced into having sex when you don’t want to. Being coerced into sex is rape, and that is a crime. It’s wrong for your boyfriend to force you into having sex with him. He should be able to respect your boundaries as a human being. He isn’t entitled to having your body whenever he pleases. He shouldn’t be treating you as some kind of sex object.
8. He uses you as an emotional punching bag.
Even if he feels like the weight of the world is on his shoulders, he should be willing to face his troubles without bringing you in as collateral damage. He shouldn’t allow you to get caught in the crosshairs. You should never be a target of his temper tantrums. He should respect you enough to protect you from whatever troubles are plaguing him.
9. He lies to you.
You deserve complete honesty in the relationship. No compromises there. If he’s lying to you, then that means he doesn’t respect you enough to think that you deserve the truth in the relationship. He shouldn’t be lying to you just because he doesn’t want to face the consequences of the truth. He should be man enough to not weasel his way out of compromising situations with his lies.
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