It’s no secret that guys have a reputation for always finishing first in the bedroom and it can be very frustrating for a lot of women. You might still be on your way to climaxing but it can get really disappointing when he’s already done with you. It’s not his fault. You can’t blame him too much. It’s how his body was designed. He is already at a disadvantage just because he’s already wired to be stimulated much easier than you are. It’s physiology and it’s how nature intended things to be. And unfortunately, you just drew the short stick in this situation.
There’s no denying that sex is a very important aspect of any modern relationship. It is the absolute pinnacle of trust and physical intimacy. It is two people who are completely being vulnerable towards one another – baring their physical selves to each other and joining as one. It’s beautiful – it’s poetry manifested in physical action. Sex is an amazing thing especially when it’s done right. And that’s why it can be a really big downer whenever one of you is left unsatisfied after everything is all said and done.
You always want to make sure that you are constantly communicating your needs and expectations to one another in an articulate manner. If you feel like your needs in the bedroom aren’t being met by him, then you need to be able to tell him that. He has to know how he can improve to better meet your needs. If you keep your feelings bottled up inside, then you are only going to grow to resent him and yourself as well. If you want something done, then ask for it. You just have to stay as honest and as patient with one another as possible and you’ll be okay.
But just in case the both of you are feeling lost in the bedroom and you don’t really know how to address the whole issue of not being able to climax together, then you should just read this article. It’s important to note that while some of these may apply to most people, some of these may not work either. It’s all a matter of trial and error – and figuring out what works best for the both of you as a couple. Don’t be afraid to think outside of the box by experimenting a little as well. Ultimately, sex is a process of self-discovery for the both of you. You are learning new things about your own bodies and about each other as well. You can merely use these tips as starting guides to help put you on the right track to climaxing in unison. This way, no one ends up feeling left out or unsatisfied at the end of the night. Here are 12 tips to help your guy last longer in the bedroom.
1. Limit his alcohol intake.
Remember that sex is still a physical act more than it is anything else. And given that it’s a physical act, you don’t want to be impairing yourselves by taking in too much alcohol. You don’t see any athletes drinking vodka before the big game, do you?
2. Don’t let him penetrate you all the way.
Sometimes, shallow thrusts are enough to really stimulate you to climax. And they won’t be as stimulating to him so that he can last a little bit longer.
3. Make sure that both of you are in good physical shape.
Again, sex is a physical act. And if he doesn’t have the stamina to move for long periods of time, he isn’t going to be able to keep up with you.
4. Encourage him to practice deep breathing.
Studies have also shown that men are able to have better control of the activity of their male organs with slow and practiced breathing.
5. Help him fix any self-esteem or anxiety issues he might have.
A little confidence could go a long way in fixing a huge variety of issues a guy may have in the bedroom.
6. Prolong the foreplay stage.
To get you further into the mood and closer to climax, prolong the foreplay stage. Get your state of arousal really up, and once you feel like you’re about to finish, have him penetrate you right away.
7. Slow it down a little bit.
Sometimes, it’s all a matter of adjusting the tempo of the thrusts. Studies have shown that men are able to hold it in for much longer if they just slow down their tempo a little bit. That slight adjustment can have huge implications.
8. Quit the stick.
Cigarettes are bad for your health. They slow you down. They lower your stamina and conditioning.
9. Make use of the rubber.
Rubber has a way of lessening the pleasure sensations of the male organ. And so it might not be as enjoyable for him as it would be without a condom; but at least he’s going to be able to last a little bit longer for you.