A Bride invited her colleague to her wedding and asked her to pay for the fancy five-course meal she served at her wedding.
On Reddit’s AITA platform, one woman wrote that her colleague invited her to her wedding. She got super excited and asked the bride if she had to pay any guest fees, and she said, “No.”
“Recently, my colleague (F31) invited me to her wedding, which happened yesterday. I was super excited and happy for her. Just in case, I asked her if there was any guest fees – she said “No, you don’t need to pay me anything.”
OP said that she went to her wedding, and everything went great until dinner time.
“To my shock, I was presented with a wedding menu that had prices on it. (For example: Steak —- $50) Everything was ridiculously expensive, including the vegetarian options.”
“At first, I wanted to question her because well, she lied to me that I didn’t have to pay for anything. But it was her wedding and I didn’t want to spoil her day by embarrassing her in front of everyone.”
OP said she didn’t have enough money and was too hungry as she skipped lunch to enjoy the wedding dinner.
“However, the only other option was to simply not eat, as I didn’t bring enough money for both a meal and a ride back. But this was completely unfavorable as I had skipped my lunch to ‘save space’ for the wedding meal and was pretty hungry.”
She added, “Suddenly, I remembered that I saw a McDonald’s about five minutes away from the hotel. As tactfully as I could, I asked the bride if I could make a quick stop to McDonald’s as I didn’t bring enough money for the reception meal. I said that I’d be back in time for the gift ceremony and cake.”
But to her disappointment, the bride became furious when OP told her she didn’t bring enough money to pay for the wedding dinner as she told her she wouldn’t have to pay.
“I thought she’d agree, but to my horror – she got really upset. She said that she put in so much effort to get this “Michelin-star restaurant service” yet I still wasn’t happy. That I was trying to bring her down by saying that I’d rather eat McDonald’s.”
“Alarmed, I said that I didn’t mean it that way – I just didn’t have the cash for it. She then scoffed, saying – “Who’s fault is that?”
“Although I was trying to keep in my anger, those words really pissed me off, so I told her “You were the one who lied that I didn’t need to pay anything!” she continued.
“Getting angry as well, she replied: “What I meant was there is no attendance fee! You literally assumed that you’d get a free five-course dinner. Wow, you’re cheaper than I thought!” With a glare, she asked me to leave her wedding. I did, struckdumb and rather hurt.
(…And on my way home, I grabbed a Big Mac lol)”
After reaching home, when OP told her boyfriend about what happened at the wedding, he said she “chose the wrong time to be stingy.”
“He thought it was a funny story but said I was an AH – if I didn’t have the money, I could always pay her back later,” she wrote.
“My other friends agree as well, saying that it was not tactful of me for doing that at the wedding – and although she lied, I should have just brushed it off instead of dampening her happy spirits.”
“After hearing their opinions, I felt quite guilty and embarrassed. However, that one little part of me still thinks that it’s justified because 1) she lied to me, and 2) publicly humiliated me.”
“Please help me out. AITA?” she asked people on Reddit.
The woman’s post received hundreds of comments, all in her favor. Redditors said the bride needed to be honest with OP if she wanted her to pay for the wedding dinner.
“I’ve never been to a wedding where the guests pay for their meal. Nta,” said one.
“And if you DO expect guests to pay for their meals, do not act surprised/offended if they decide not to and go elsewhere. Especially considering how bad wedding food sometimes can be,” another wrote.
“NTA – But I think you handled it wrong. You shouldn’t have asked her if it was okay to leave and get McDonald’s. You should have done it and come back. The bride/your colleague does sound like a bit of a jerk and she shouldn’t have humiliated you that way,” a third said.
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