A self-proclaimed “no-nonsense” dating expert claims that if a man doesn’t say “I love you” within three months, he’s “not the one.”
Australian dating coach Jake Maddock stirred controversy by insisting on a strict timeline for expressing love. In a video, Jake stated, “If your partner doesn’t clearly say ‘I love you’ within twelve weeks, then he’s not the right one for you, and you’ve wasted your time.”
“Twelve weeks, not a whole year – just twelve weeks, three months, and that’s your limit,” the expert said. He stressed that hearing “I love you” is essential for a happy and successful relationship.
He added that women who stay with their partners past this point without hearing “I love you” are just “wasting their time on possibilities.”
“You’ll know with your ideal partner, and they’ll know, too…”
Opinions were divided between men and women regarding Jake’s strict three-month deadline for determining if a relationship would work out. However, many people agreed with his tough advice, calling it “the truth.”
“Yep the 90 day rule! After that you’re wasting your time,” a woman commented.
“Unpopular opinion, but I agree. I was married in less than 12 weeks, and I am happily married to my best friend celebrating 10 years next month,” added another.
Meanwhile, others called it “crazy” to set a time limit on love and argued that three months is certainly too soon to be sure about a relationship.
“That’s way too soon. You’re tripping,” someone said.
“After being married 43 years, that is absurd,” commented another.
Defenders of Jake’s strict rule claimed that those who thought three months was too early were simply “unresolved wrecks.”
Some countered that people who say “I love you” too quickly are often engaging in “love bombing,” using the term casually to manipulate feelings.
“My ex-boyfriend said I love you after a week, I wish I ran then… love bomber at its finest,” said one.
This isn’t the first strict dating rule the relationship expert has shared with his followers. Jake also claimed to have figured out the ideal age range for single women seeking the right men to date.
The relationship expert also suggested that single women should choose men who are at least ten years older.
He explained, “An older man is likely to be less afraid of commitment and more certain about the direction of the relationship.” He also noted that an older man tends to have a more mature perspective on handling problems and relationship challenges.
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Source: Daily Mail
