1. It’s okay to question your relationship.
You aren’t always going to feel sure about the relationship that you’re in. You aren’t always going to be so secure in the embrace of your partner. And that’s okay. As human beings, we all have our share of fears and insecurities. It’s part of life. Everything is always so uncertain and we can only control and manipulate so much of the things around us. And just because you’re in a strong relationship doesn’t mean that you’re going to be immune from questioning it from time to time.
2. You are still going to get tempted every once in a while.
Just because you are in a loving and committed relationships doesn’t mean that you are going to be immune to temptations all around you. You are only human and you can’t help what you see. However, you are still in complete control over your faculties; and it only matters what you do in the face of these temptations.
3. Long-term relationships aren’t always exciting.
A lot of what comprises a long-term relationship is boring – and you’re going to have to be content with that. You have to remember that relationships aren’t always going to be thrills and surprises. When you start to get really comfortable with someone, you’re going to establish a kind of routine for yourselves. And once you establish that routine, things will start to feel a little too predictable. And you have to be okay with that. Sometimes, stability is going to mean predictability.
4. You are going to feel vulnerable in your own relationship.
Vulnerability is a part of the game – and you’re just going to have to get used to it. Remember that in a long-term relationship, you are both going to have to make a constant effort to get closer to one another. And you’re not going to be able to do that unless you allow yourselves to be vulnerable. You have to let yourselves be at ease around each other. You can’t just always be keeping your guard up. You need to let your defenses down.
5. You aren’t always going to feel special.
A relationship is always going to require a healthy system of give and take. You aren’t always going to get your way. And you aren’t always going to feel deprived and invalidated either. You need to be able to strike a balance in your relationship. Yes, you might want to feel like a star all of the time. You might want to have all of your needs catered to. However, it can’t just be you. You have to make sure that your partner feels special and loved as well.
6. Patience and understanding are keys to longevity.
You are both only human. And so naturally, you are both going to be inclined to committing a few mistakes here and there in your relationship. And that should be okay. You should both always be practicing maximum patience and understanding with one another. Instead of letting anger lead the way, you’re going to need healthy doses of compassion instead.
7. Sexual desires can fluctuate throughout the course of a relationship.
Just because you had a really fiery and passionate sex life when you first started dating doesn’t mean that it’s going to be like that throughout the entire course of your relationship. Your sexual desires, drives, and tendencies can fluctuate throughout your relationship. And that’s something that is to be expected at this point.
8. You don’t have to fix every problem before going to bed.
Anyone who says that healthy relationships are those that have couples who don’t go to sleep angry are people who are naïve. These are obviously inexperienced individuals who are living in some kind of fantasy land. In real relationships, issues and problems can be so serious to the point that they aren’t going to be solved within a day. And that’s okay. Not all problems in a relationship absolutely have to be solved before bedtime.
9. Your partner is going to annoy you.
When you first start a relationship, you can find that your partner has certain quirks and eccentricities that endear you to them. However, you should know that it’s normal for you to find these same quirks and eccentricities really annoying down the line. It’s part of breeding familiarity with another person. And it’s not really something that you should be overly concerned about.
10. Arguments are part of it all.
You are two distinct and unique individuals with your own special set of philosophies, opinions, and worldviews. You aren’t the same person, and so it’s normal for the two of you to have disagreements every now and then. That’s not something that you should be worried about. The strength of a relationship isn’t determined by how little they might argue. It’s about how well you are able to overcome your differences and disagreements that defines you as a couple.