You would be surprised at just how many marriages end abruptly; with at least one party getting blindsided by a divorce. It happens way too often. And it’s mostly because these people are absent-minded and they take their relationships for granted. All happy relationships are always going to start off with a bang. There is a general excitement and exhilaration in the air when the relationship is still fresh. But as time draws on, the magic and the novelty of the romance starts to fade and real life will bring couples back down to earth really quickly.
And it’s when the thrill and magic of a relationship dies down where couples really get to know what their relationship is made of. The strongest couples will make an effort to rise above. They will do whatever they can to keep the relationship afloat. They will put in the extra work necessary to make sure that the relationship continues to stay a happy and passionate one. But there are some people who take their relationships for granted.
They know that they have something steady and stable; and so they stop putting in the effort into their relationships. This is always the wrong approach. They grow complacent and absent-minded. And before they know it, they’ve driven their own partners away from them and their relationships are beyond repair. This happens a lot in marriages, and you have to make sure that your own personal marriage isn’t victimized by your own complacency. You need to always be staying on top of things. At the first signs of trouble,
you need to act and make sure that you’re doing everything that you can to save your marriage. Marriage experts have recently spoken to us and told us about the 9 definitive signs that a marriage is headed for divorce. If you notice that your marriage exhibits a lot of these signs, then you need to act fast to save it or watch your marriage crumble right before your very eyes.
1. You have a sex life that is predictable and boring.
Sex isn’t going to be such a big deal to some couples, but for a lot of couples, it can be a silent relationship killer. It’s nice to have a routine that the both of you can go back to in the bedroom. But it’s always better to mix things up every now and then to keep things interesting.
2. You always talk about your problems as a couple but never the solutions.
If you’re both only just talking about your problems in the relationships but none of the solutions, then you’re both essentially just nagging. You’re both just complaining and neither of you are doing anything to really fix the trouble that you’re going through.
3. You both insult one another on a personal level.
Be very careful of your words when you both get upset. Try to keep things mature when you have your fights and just focus on the issue. If you resort to personal attacks, you might be opening up wounds that you will never get to take back or heal.
4. You find yourselves feeling angry all the time.
Anger is never a good emotion to have in a relationship. If you’re always angry when you’re around one another, something is definitely wrong.
5. There is infidelity in your relationship.
Infidelity is always rough. And it’s often caused by a person’s needs in a relationship that aren’t being met. That’s why you must both make it a point to always be communicating your needs to one another in an honest and reasonable manner.
6. You are both only looking out for your individual selves.
You can’t afford to be completely selfish in your relationship. You have a partner. You both need to be functioning as a team. You both need to be looking out for one another.
7. You both try to win every single argument.
Not all arguments are worth winning. And in fact, not all arguments are worth having. It’s okay to have conflicts as a couple. But you don’t always have to be picking senseless fights with one another. You will only end up driving each other further away.
8. One or both of you gets in the way of each other’s dreams.
Just because you are in a relationship together doesn’t mean that you have to give up your individual dreams for the other. You must still make it a point to pursue your personal goals – and you need to make sure that you meet each other halfway through compromises and sacrifices.
9. You are going through financial woes.
Money is a big backbreaker when it comes to marriages and romances. The most important thing that you can do as a married couple when going through financial woes is to always stay open and honest with one another. Never hide money problems from each other. Try to solve your problems together.