What can be better dating advice than the kind that actually comes from those who have tried and failed in the past? The truth is that you can learn a lot from people who are in really successful relationships. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t learn from those who have been in failed relationships as well. In fact, you have lots to gain from listening to those people who have actually been through substantial adversity in life and relationships.
And while it can be foolish to think that there are definitive rules to dating and relationships, there are always a few basic principles that you at least want to be taking into consideration as you navigate your way through love with another person. And if you want to have practical advice from someone who has actually been there, then go ahead and read this article in its entirety. You don’t have anything to lose and you have everything to gain from reading this article. And it’s honest words straight out of the mind of an experienced woman.
Of course, it’s important for you to be taking everything listed here with a grain of salt.
Always try to focus on the best parts of his personality.
Be positive. Yes, if you try hard enough, there will always be something that’s going to make you unhappy about him. And that’s normal. You aren’t going to get a perfect partner in life. But if you learn to shift your perspective and if you focus on the positives, everyone will be better off for it.
Make sure to prioritize physical intimacy.
There are many layers to intimacy in a relationship. And you’re going to have to navigate your way through all of them. One of the most basic and essential layers is physical intimacy. You’re always going to have to make an effort to stay physically intimate with one another.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help from external sources.
You don’t always have to be looking into yourselves for solution. Sometimes, the issues that you face in your relationship aren’t always going to be issues that you can overcome on your own. And sometimes, you’re going to have to humble yourselves and seek for help from other people.
Give him space if he ever asks for it.
Respect the fact that he isn’t always going to want to spend all of his time with you. Respect the fact that he isn’t always going to want to be around you. He’s going to ask for his space sometimes; and you need to let him live his own life without being bitter about it.
Never try to change the fundamentals of his being.
Accept his flaws. You don’t necessarily have to fall in love with his flaws. But you need to learn to fall in love with him in spite of them. You need to be able to accept the fact that your boyfriend is going to be less than perfect. There will be parts of him that won’t make you happy. And you need to be more tolerant.
Always give him his share of compliments.
Never be withholding of your admiration for him. Sometimes, you can get complacent in a relationship and you withhold your admiration for your partner thinking that it’s already a given. Don’t make that mistake. Make your man feel good whenever you get the chance to do so.
Laugh as much as you can.
A relationship without much laughter is a sad relationship. Sharing a sense of humor is also a nice way to really build the closeness that you have as a couple. You are generating organic and natural positive vibes for yourselves. And the happier you are as a couple, the likelier that you are both going to be able to make things work.
Own up to your imperfections and shortcomings.
You aren’t going to be perfect yourself. You aren’t always going to be your best self. You are going to stumble and make a few mistakes every so often in the relationship. And that’s okay. Just make sure that you stay humble, acknowledge your faults, and find a way to learn and grow from them.
Allow yourself to become vulnerable.
You aren’t going to be able to get closer to your man if you won’t allow yourself to be vulnerable with him. You need to allow yourself to be vulnerable. You need to open yourself up to the risk of getting hurt because that’s the essence of relationships.
Be as patient and as understanding as possible.
He’s not always going to be his perfect self. He’s not always going to be lovable and admirable in your eyes. And you’re just going to have to find a way to adjust your mindset somehow. Even when he’s being difficult to love, be patient with him. And understand that he’s only human as well.