Marriage entails protection from both sides. Both partners need to be there for one another and their families. They can’t pick and choose or time their availabilities based on their routines because bad things can happen at any given moment and mostly don’t come with warnings.
Today’s story is about a wife who went through a family emergency alone while her husband slept.
Reddit user throwaydoorlock977 shared her story on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) to ask the community whether she’s right or wrong for what she did. She wrote:
“Background about my husband : He stays up late at night and has to wake up early to go to work. So when he gets home at 5, he has to get his 2hrs nap so he could both make up for lack of sleep and also be ready to stay up late to play with his console.”
“He values his sleep and has one rule in the house that he enforces strictly, which is to not be interrupted while sleeping. He literally put a sign on the bedroom door saying ‘DO.NOT.WAKE.ME.UP” under any circumstances, just no, unless someone’s hurt or dead though; in this case he said he still wouldn’t be of much help anyway. The kids and I would sometimes wake him up but for serious reasons. He got mad and started locking the door. I get no access to the room for 2 hours but that’s not the main problem.”
“This past tuesday, my 3yo son had hot oil spill on his hand while his 14yo sister was cooking, I heard him scream and saw that the oil was covering his hand and half of his arm, I brought the first aid kit but he was in so much pain and his skin looked really bad. I rushed to wake my husband up, I kept knocking but got no response so I tried to open it but it was locked. I spent a while between knocking on the door (he had his phone turned off) and getting dressed after my daughter asked the neighbor to drive us to the hospital. I couldn’t waste more time cause my son was crying. The neighbor took us to the hospital and I couldn’t help feel livid the whole time. We got home and my husband was pacing around asking wherever were and why I didn’t answer his texts. I blew up on him after I showed him our son’s injury and told him that I pounded on the door to wake him up but he said had his earbuds on and didn’t hear a thing. I called him reckless and neglectful for ignoring a family emergency. He said I could say the same thing about myself for leaving our son unsupervised and causing him to get a burn. I stopped arguing and went to remove the bedroom door lock, he started yelling at me saying I had no right. I refused to respond I just walked off to calm down. He didn’t stop complaining calling me bossy and saying that by removing the lock I’ve destroyed his peace and quiet and caused him sleep deprivation. He’s insisting I put it back but I refused.”
“I could be wrong for what I’ve done but I was frustrated and mad. AITA?”
The Responses
Reddit’s community supported this wife for removing the bedroom lock. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the best responses:
OneSuspect1 wrote:
“WTF did I just read? Your husband takes an early evening nap so he can stay up late to play video games? Do your kids have any relationship with him because it sounds like he never sees them awake. Obviously NTA.”
ToastedMarshmeowllow commented:
“NTA. Accidents happen, no matter how much you stay alert. But I don’t believe your husband didn’t hear you calling, he chose to ignore you.”
mdthomas spoke facts:
“NTA”
“I highly recommend consulting a lawyer and getting a divorced.”
“Your child burned themself with hot oil. Your husband did not seemed concerned about this when he found out, but was more than concerned about a lock being removed from the bedroom door?”
“He’s clearly showing his priorities: himself.”
“As other people have pointed out, why does he have to nap right after work so he can stay up late to game?”
“It really does sound like he’s avoiding you and your children.
“Do what is best for you and your children.”
“I absolutely do not believe that “he didn’t hear you”. There’s no way he couldn’t have. You would have been knocking so hard that it would have sounded like you were trying to break down the door!”
This post is going viral and has over 1500 comments at the time of writing this article, you can read all of the comments and responses on Reddit here.
Our Take
NTA. As we’ve mentioned before, emergencies usually don’t come with warnings and happen whenever they please. This wife did nothing wrong, and her husband should’ve unquestionably been there. We hope she finds peace and happiness, and we hope this husband changes his patterns.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this wife’s situation? Talk to us in the comments below!
Source: Reddit
WOW!! Very obvious the husband is only concerned with himself and his games! I agree that the wife should seek a divorce! it sounds as if the kids do not get to spend much time with “dad” at all! He is very immature!