Relationships between younger men and older women are on the rise. Younger men can have different desires from women their age, so they are part of why older women attract younger men.
Wendy L. Patrick, Ph.D., says that some men prefer dating older women because they feel equal. Relationships like these are more common than most people think, and they’re also more successful. There are a few reasons why young men like older women.
Older Women Have More Intellectual Ability
Men want a more profound connection where they can talk. Because older women are more mature and better at holding intellectual conversations, so younger men are attracted to them. According to anthropologist Helen Fisher, eighty-seven percent of men would date a more intelligent woman and more educated than them.
Women who know what they want attract men.
Older women have more life experience and know what they want out of life. Men like women who have meaningful and fulfilling goals are sure of themselves and know what they want. With a plan in life, a woman has more time to invest in a relationship, making women more attractive to men.
The older you are, the more experience you have
Women with more life experience have knowledge that younger women do not have. This can help mature men in their relationships. People tend to gravitate towards someone who gives them a realistic outlook on life and helps them grow intellectually. An article on Today.com interviewed young men about how they feel about older women and found that most acknowledged that “older women have more life experience, emotional stability, grounding, and can offer honesty and different perspectives.”
Young men can attain emotional maturity
Older women are more mature emotionally, too, in many ways. Older women will share their feelings with their partners, something men like. Older women can help younger men process and express their feelings.
Men Want Mature Behavior
A mature woman will know how to handle her emotions and behavior. The calming nature of older women is appealing to younger men looking for a more serious relationship. Most men are attracted to women who can behave maturely in relationships and life. It also helps them mature in their own lives as well.
Confident women appeal to men..
Most mature women can feel confident on their own, but some younger women need constant reassurance and attention. You can do anything with grace and maturity if you’re older. Men like it because older women know what they want and don’t play games with them. In a Today.com story, men said the attention of an older woman gave them more self-confidence and self-esteem.
Mutual respect is essential to both partners.
Younger men want a relationship where they feel respected and respect their partners. Older women are respected because they have life experience, are mature, and know they can learn a lot in the relationship. As Gleb Tsipurky, Ph.D., says, allowing each other privacy and not pushing the other person to do things they’d instead not do can make a relationship happier since it builds trust. It’s easy for men to respect an older woman once they realize she’s trustworthy.
Very interesting perspective, what age is too much?
I am dating a 57 year old man. I am a very healthy 85 and he knows it. I’ve never felt more loved.
This makes me feel better…l’m same age difference as you have, in my rel’nshp. Best rel’nship ever! 💕
I would agree with some of that except women of all ages play games just as men do. I’m surprised but not surprised that none said anything to do with being “established” I see alot of younger guys with older women for a free ride so to speak
I’m 58 yr old female dating a 20yr old male. I’ve felt so much respect, thoughtfulness and attentiveness than I’ve ever felt. It’s very awkward cos my sons are 25 & 24 and not very accepting.
I agree 💯 with this article…
Well show me where all these younger men are. I’m 42 and I’ll teach them a thing or two 😂😂😂
I’m 47 with a 27 year old. It’s been great!
yes ma’am teach me
I’m 41 and my boyfriend is 33. We have a great connection. We both definitely meet each others emotional needs. It’s amazing and so unexpecting. Good luck to any others <3
My boyfriend is 14 years younger than me. I am 48 and he is 34. I know that he does like me being more mature because he says girls his age he can’t stand. We’ve been together 6 years now. Sometimes it’s his immaturity. I can’t stand.
My boyfriend is also 14 years younger and I fill more love and a better connection then I ever did with my husband of 17 years. I’m 38 and he’s 24.
I 100% agree! I’m dating a man that’s 13.5 yrs. younger than me, 51 & 38, & it’s great!
My boyfriend and I are 13 years apart. I’m 52 & he’s 39. We share the same energy! I’ve never had so much fun as I am having now. Men my age group or older are gross!
It connotes that this generation men are getting practical & into a well-planned harmonious life with their high-valued partner.🥰😍💏💝🌠🌠
I think younger men like older women because older women are more experienced taking care of his needs. They know what needs to be done. Older women have more experience keeping her man happy and his needs met. They need su0port to reach their goals. Perhaps the older woman has more maternal instincts. My opinion..
i am sure
I believe everything you say to be true. I am 43 and my Fiancé is 30. I never dated so young but he was very mature. I told him I have 5 kids from my Previous marriage. I told him my kids come first and he said good because I wouldn’t want a woman who doesn’t put her kids first. I was shot but love his answer. He asked me out and I was like hell yeah. He told me he likes older women because they are less judgemental. They don’t except the guys to be super models and to be rich af. They want a man who loves them for who they are and to respect them. In our relationship we both love each other for who we are and there is respect and no judgement. We also have amazing communication and we don’t put each other down because the world does that enough. Not saying we didn’t have an argument, but we do it in a respectful way. Also solve the problem and listen to each other speak. I am very blessed to find such a treasure in this world and I am glad I took a chance.🥰🥰
Good for you and same here, congrats to you and your upcoming marriage. Mine is 4 years younger than me, and so have 3 kids from a previous and very long relationship/marriage of 23 years. He knows my kids come first and is always there to live and support them too. He is a good man and was raised right! Stay Blessed 🙏🏽
This is really refreshing, I’ve been back in the dating world almost a year, and I’ve really been shy of dating younger men, Even though I feel like we match much better than I do with men my own age. I think because of this article I’m gonna step out and entertain some of these younger men see if I can’t find what you have found
hi Jessica, u dnt hv 2 look any further, I’m here just take nd runaway wit me
This is nice to hear. I’m 55, my boyfriend is 38. I adore him and he seems like he doesn’t give a fig about our age difference. I sometimes feel a little insecure about it (but never say anything about it, I know it’s my own deal, im adjusting to my age in all areas of my life).
Loved reading this! My 1st husband was 13 years older; lasted 13 years. My 2nd husband of 10 years was 20 years younger. My current is 30 years younger; I’m 57yo 😉
I’m 62 and my boyfriend is 51. I know the age difference is a big deal to him even though he was the one who approached me; I wish he could see this page!
I love seeing all of these comments . Makes me feel alot better about my situation and age difference with my current boyfriend . I’m 43 and he’s 27. There are definitely some immaturity issues and I have some insecurities about my age but we are making it work . Nice to know I’m not the only one with such a big age difference in my relationship.
I feel the intellect of an older lady, turns a man on! He is seeking companionship that is on his level, and she is simply doing likewise. There’s no interest on Either part for drama, or stress, or trivialties- only for attention to one Another’s needs, supporting each other, mutual respect, intelligent conversations, and Never any Games! Sharing life with each other, along with understanding. Match, game, set!
I’m 62 dating a 33 year old. It seems a bit awkward since my son is 33. But we both love the same things.
I’m 39 and my man is 25. we got married last year and we are happy and in love alhamdulillah ever in our relationship that people around us always jealous astahgferulla
My fiancee is 25 and I’m 46. He is the provider. I have 4 children. He fell in love with me right away. He has since taken care of me. He makes sure I have a smile on my face every single day. It’s been the best relationship I have ever been in.
I’m 40 and am for the first time dating younger; he is 37. It’s still new but feels so much better than the older guys I dated. Felt so right since the start. Let’s see where this goes.
this is really true, im 34 and my boyfriend is 25, im legally separated with 3 kids. and he accept all of it with respect and love, were Good together, were inlove, respect each other needs,and im content with matured level of relationship we have…
I am 60 and my husband is 44. He approached me one sunny day in May, 21. We were both instantly attracted to one another but I wasn’t convinced that I could seriously get involved with someone so much younger than myself. I have a son 2 years his senior!!! We married April, 22. Our relationship is great! I wouldn’t change a thing!!!! We have mutual respect for one another’s feelings and allow eachother to be themself!!!!
I’m 57 and I noticed a lot of younger men have been interested in me being insecure of my age. I let them pass, but now hearing and knowing that there is so many couples out there with this age difference makes me more confident, but in the back of my mind, I’m always worried, if I’m gonna get too old for them, I’m in a relationship ? Please be considerate with your responses, but I would appreciate them
in the situation when I have 20, and I meetup woman 40 old, she is married, but we star make relativitas relationship until today. we do everything in our journey and she it’s my everything in my life Forever and ending.
currently even that I have a family and she also with his family.
mostly older women have money .. they are rich so young men likes man
I am 65 and am dating a 62 year old. He acts like a 10 year old once in a while. I don’t think that ever changes.
your very butifull and good answer
Love hearing all this testimonies I’ve always been about the age. I would be the one always saying I don’t want to date a younger guy well I started making a friendship with this guy that now is my boyfriend he is 25 and I’m 44 and I was very sceptical but so far he has been the sweetest soul and treats me like a queen and is the best communicator I Love him sooo much he is the only man that can handle me because I can bee a handful God sure blessed me with a very mature communicating loving sweet soul of a man.
I agreed, but in my situation, it’s the opposite. I’m a 53-year-old man dating a 22-year-old woman, and we are both mentally content. I can relate to her, and she fell in love because of my supportive mental health..
I agree with all of these ideas. because I have the same experience.
When I was 20, I met a friend, and we became very good friends, until now. But when I met my friend’s mother’s at the age of 40, at first we felt normal, but after she felt that I was someone she trusted to tell stories, share experiences about his unhealthy life in the family, because his husband, before, she did not want to marry but his mother forced her to accept it.
I heard all the things she (woman) said about building an unhealthy family, living an unhappy life, like in prison.
from here, our story began, we had a son, until now we are both, the relationship is still good as before.
now I also have a healthy family, but, my relationship with her is not broken, maybe death will separate our destiny.