When you open yourself up to another person, you are always taking a risk. And sometimes, that risk isn’t going to pay off for you. When you open your heart and soul to another person, you are opening yourself up to getting hurt, abused, manipulated, and discarded. Not all of the people who walk into your life are going to be worth keeping or taking a chance on; but you’re never really going to be able to know for sure if someone is worth trusting. That’s why it’s called a “chance” – because nothing is ever for certain in this life especially when it comes from relationships.
Sometimes, when you open yourself up to another person, you are opening yourself up to toxicity. And when you find that to be the case, you need to make sure that you are able to walk away from it as fast as you can. Otherwise, the toxicity is going to seep and fester into your own life. And you don’t want that. You don’t want your entire life to be compromised as a whole just because of this one toxic person. However, it’s always easier said and done. It’s not easy to walk away from someone you love; from someone you are invested in a relationship with.
You might feel like you are being betrayed. You are really pouring your heart and soul into your relationship but then it all turns out in ways that you don’t expect it to. It’s all so bad. It’s far from what you want. You feel like such a fool and you just want to crawl into a hole. You’ve believed so much in love and you have nothing to show for it except your emotional wounds and scars. You feel so lost and confused because you know you put your heart in the right place.
You know that you always had the best intentions. However, you also grew to realize that this person was injecting so much poison into your heart and into your life. You feel like you took a chance; but it all ended up backfiring on you. You ended up crashing and burning. You don’t know why you ever put yourself into that position in the first place. You knew that instead of bringing light into your life, you felt so much darkness and despair. And that’s why you knew that something was wrong. That’s when you knew that you needed to make a change. That’s when you found out you needed to adjust your position.
You are an optimist and a hopeless romantic. And you so desperately want to believe that this person is deserving of another chance. You want to cling to the idea that you can still somehow make things work; that you’re eventually going to be able to change things. But you know that you can’t be stupid anymore. You can’t keep on making the same mistakes over and over again. You know now that you can’t keep on opening yourself up to getting hurt. You need to change your ways for the sake of your heart’s own safety. You don’t want to keep on opening yourself up to getting hurt.
You’ve seen his true colors. You’ve seen what he’s truly like; and you know deep down in your heart that he’s never going to be the guy you need him to be. You know that it’s getting harder for you the longer that you stay in this relationship. And you find it so devastating to look back and see the wreckage that has been your life with him.
And that’s why you need to move on. That’s why you need to pursue something better. That’s why you need to be able to just detach yourself from that entire toxic narrative and pursue a better life; a better love for yourself. You shouldn’t feel guilty about putting yourself out there and taking a chance on love. Because that’s what love is all about. It’s always going to be a leap of faith. And sometimes, that leap isn’t always going to work out for the best.
However, when you do decide to exclude yourself from a toxic relationship and you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom, something amazing happens. You find love – not in another person, but in yourself. You discover what it means to find strength and happiness on your own. You learn what it means to have a meaningful and fulfilling life on your own regardless of your relationship status. You finally understand that love doesn’t have to come from another person for it to be valid. You know that self-love is a lot better than the love from a toxic person. And when you learn that, you fall in love with life all over again.
