This Is Why You Don’t Need To Feel Bad About Being Single To Start The New Year
Just look back at the year you went through.
The new year has come and it’s no secret that you have been dreading this moment somewhat. You take a long hard look at the year that has passed and you assess your place in it. You feel happy and fulfilled about the good things that you have found to happen in your life. But you also feel a slight twinge of sadness because you realize that this is another new year that you’re going into as a single person; as someone who isn’t in a relationship. You feel like you’re just destined to be single for the rest of your life at the rate things are going. But instead of letting that get you depressed and down; instead of letting that ruin your mood going into a new year, these are a few things that you need to think about:
It’s a new year. So what? If you really learn to take things all into perspective, a new year is practically nothing. It flies by at the blink of an eye. It’s here one minute and then it’s gone on the next. So what if you’re single right now to start the new year? So what if you’re going to be single going into the next year as well? You have to realize that love isn’t a race and that time doesn’t matter at the end of it all. You don’t have to rush into love. In fact, you shouldn’t be rushing into love. Just live your life and make it worthwhile and love will come when it does.
Take everything into perspective. Don’t let the fact that you’re still single keep you from being happy. In the grander scheme of things, you might have not landed yourself in a relationship, but you got to do so many other things instead. You had the opportunity to devote a lot of your time and emotional energy on other aspects of life. You made the most out of the time that you were given and even though love wasn’t in the cards for you, that doesn’t mean that it still wasn’t time well spent. You just have to be able to remind yourself that there is a life beyond falling in love and getting into a relationship. You just have to remind yourself that you don’t have to be in love with someone just for you to be happy. You don’t have to spend your life sitting around waiting for the right guy to walk into your life. You can get up and live your life the way that you want and when people see that, you will become infinitely more attractive. Let it be known that eve though you didn’t get yourself into a relationship in the past year you still made the most of your life; and that’s something that you can be proud of.
Try looking at your life through the lenses of your friends who are in relationships. You probably hear it from them all of the time. They tell you that they wish they could get back what you have right now. Of course, you don’t buy it because you know that they’re perfectly happy with their romantic lives. But there is truth to what they’re saying. There are some things that you can do because of your single-hood that they can only ever dream of doing now that they’ve tied themselves down to someone else. There are perks to your being single. There are certain advantages that come attached with your situation.
Just look back at the year you went through. Did you really need a partner to help you get through it? Well, you’re still here, aren’t you? You made it out just fine. You were able to weather the storms on your own. You were able to do right by yourself. You didn’t need to be in a relationship to solve the problems in your life. You took life by the horns and you domesticated it all by yourself. You had a great year despite the fact that you were single. And if you remain single throughout the stretch of this year, you’re still bound for great times ahead of you.
Don’t buy into all of the media hype. You look at your social media feeds and people are trying to shove their relationships down your throat. You don’t have to let that make you feel bad. Yes, be happy for those people. But don’t be jealous. Know that there are still some aspects of their lives that are less than perfect. Know that they still have to face their fare share of problems just like you do.
At the end of the day, you have plenty of things to be thankful for. There are lots of things to be happy about and the best part of this is that you can generate your own happiness with your own resilience.