In-laws are supposed to help couples have a happy marriage, not the opposite. Sadly, there are plenty of harrowing in-law stories out there that make people have a preconceived notion about even the good ones. Today’s Reddit story is about a truly evil mother-in-law.
Reddit user, Mundane_Waltz1106, shared her heartbreaking and traumatizing story on AITA (Am I the A**hole?), asking whether she’s wrong for not letting her mother-in-law meet her granddaughter after what she did.
She wrote:
“My husband (29) and I (21) had dealt with a lot of drama and relationship issues after I gave birth to our daughter.”
“We been together since I was 18 and got married when I was 19 we had a good trusting relationship but there was an shook to everyone when I gave birth to our daughter.”
“She didn’t have an appearance of having both of her parents being white, she had darker skin, brown eyes and came out with thick dark curly hair.”
“My husband and I both have light colored hair and light colored eyes and white skin”
“Everyone thought I cheated on my husband, which I never had, it was an awful moment of my life because I felt alone even my husband thought I cheated on him and left me in the hospital alone because his mom convinced him to leave, no one visited me because my Mil posted pictures of my daughter on social media calling me a cheater, I didn’t even see her take those pictures.”
“My husband didn’t reply to any of my texts ignoring my pleas to get an DNA test, I had to stay at my sisters house for a month until I was able to convince him to get one, which proved without a doubt that he was the father to my daughter.”
“My husband apologize profusely to me and allowed me back in our home and honestly ever since he treated me the way he did when I gave birth to our daughter I felt different towards my husband and even a little distance.”
“Even after the DNA test my MiL kept going on about how I cheated and called my daughter r*cial slurs and me every name in the book, she spead awful rumors about me and claim the DNA is fraudulent and said she’d never treat that child as her granddaughter.”
“Recently my mother in law asked to visit our daughter and referred to her as her granddaughter I don’t know what changed her but it made me feel uncomfortable so I refused.”
“My husband was angry at me that I did and thinks it gives a moment to help his mother bond with our daughter and even said it’s a child’s right to get to know their grandparents.”
“I don’t know I feel uncertain about this expressly since she never even apologized.”
“Aita for refusing my mother in law visits with her granddaughter”
The Responses
Everyone on Reddit unanimously supported this woman for what she did. For context, NTA stands for “Not the A**hole.”
Here are some of the best comments:
Compensate1995 wrote:
“NTA, she instigated others against you and almost separated you and your husband. She was being nasty and treated you awfully. She can’t expect to see her granddaughter after trying to ruin your life and hers.”
pookapotomuses commented:
“NTA, I would seriously re think my marriage though. Your husband dated a barely legal teen, then after having his child he kicked you out and would not respond to you and allowed his mother to treat you like this. You deserve better than this person and the way he treats you, he is not a good partner.”
lilEve77, like everyone else, showed a lot of love and support:
“NTA. I wouldn’t just refuse the mother in law access, I would leave the husband as well. “He allowed you to move back into your shared home”? And now he is a angry because you can’t immediately get over the horrible way his family (and him) have treated you?”
“Honey, you and your beautiful daughter deserve so much better than this. What a horrible thing to have to go through, but please get counseling and re-evaluate your relationship. Good luck.”
There are over 800 comments on this post, read them on Reddit here.
Our Take
NTA. This wife needs to find a husband who’s more supportive of her and not someone who can be so easily manipulated by his mother – forgetting all of the love and emotions he holds for his wife. We hope this woman finds peace and happiness; she deserves all of it.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this woman’s situation? Talk to us in the comments below!
Source: Reddit
Agreed NTA, you need to really see him now truly rather than later. Tell him and his mother to take a hike!
Agreed NTA. Sounds like you married a momma’s boy who only listens to his momma, and this will probably continue as long as you are married to him. If you can move back in with your sister until you can get on your feet, I would do so. Also when going to court, make sure it’s brought up how your spouse and his family treated you after the birth of your daughter. He doesn’t even deserve visitation rights until he grows up and away from his mother. You don’t know how they will try and turn your child against you. I definitely wouldn’t have another child with him. You deserve much better than what you’ve gotten. Better luck in the future.
leave him unless he stands up to his mother and starts treating you like a wife he loves. If he doesn’t, leave him and sock it to him for child support till the daughter is 18.
check the ancestry on both sides of the family, yours and his, maybe that will remove doubts. You may think seriously about whether your marriage is worth saving or not. How does your husband treat the daughter, is there any resentment toward her or does he really love her? I would never ever leave my daughter with the MIL for what she might say to her. Attitudes never change without a reason.