Recently a woman revealed that she walked out of her husband’s birthday party because his former girlfriend showed up and ruined the whole event.
The wife shared a post on Reddit and wrote that she had been dating her husband for the last three years and got married only five months ago.
“My husband and I have been together for three years and married for five months. Our relationship has been without any problems until the week before our wedding. My husband was very close friends with a woman (Let’s call her Ava) that he has known since they were sophomores in high school.” She wrote on the platform.
“I never had a problem with Ava, I thought it was very obvious that she and my husband are just friends, I mean she had a long-term boyfriend and all. So, I felt no jealousy or anything. I actually got along with Ava pretty well. We all hung out together regularly.”
“But then my husband dropped a bombshell on me the week before we got married. She continued. “I remember he sat me down and told me that Ava revealed to him that she has feelings for him and tried to convince him to not get married to me.”
The woman who goes by the username u/throwabdayso wrote that Ava even broke up with her boyfriend of 6 years to prove that she was serious about her husband.
“My husband and I both agreed to cut her off, we uninvited her to our wedding and neither one of us has been in contact with her since.”
“It was my husband’s 30th birthday yesterday, he just wanted to have a dinner with family and friends so that’s what we did. So, we are all in a restaurant eating when all of a sudden Ava walks in. She walks to our table and says she didn’t mean to intrude, that she was just getting dinner by herself and then saw us.”
“She then wishes my husband a happy birthday. I expect her to leave but then my husband asks if she wants to join us. I look at my husband like what the **ck are you doing.”
She said she was visibly uncomfortable and irritated by the whole situation, so she stood up and told Ava that she could have her seat and walked out of the party.
“When my husband comes home almost two hours later, he immediately starts an argument with me. He tells me I overreacted and acted immaturely. I ask him why did he ask Ava to eat with us because I thought we were on the same page.”
“He replies that was just being nice and he didn’t think it would be a big deal because it’s been a long time since he has seen her so she probably doesn’t have feelings for him anymore. And then he tells me that I ruined his birthday.”
The woman concluded her post by saying she is still upset about it and doesn’t consider it her fault.
“I mean, this woman literally tried to steal my partner. Am I The A**h***?”
Her post on Reddit has been upvoted by more than 15,000 people and received hundreds of comments saying that she did the right thing.
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You both are kinda ah
But you should never have left the party because you were upset because you were there with famiy and friends celebrating his birthday so you did ruin it for him but you gave her wish she got to sit with your hubby for two dam hours where she would have had to sit further away….you werent thinking there and no one had to tell her where he was having dinner because she still stalks him and still wants to be with him..just a coincidence to show up where he is …NOT…
He is TAH for sure because he is stupid for thinking he would ask her to join out of consideration without thinking of wifes feelings and stupid him thinking its only been 5 months that her feelings have changed…and because he didnt run after wife or call her on the phone that chick now is happy because she knows his love for you isnt that strong and thinks she still might have a chance …she isnt going to give up
You made the right decision to leave birthday dinner. You both agreed to cut her out of their lives. A prior agreement was made, and your husband didn’t stick with the deal. You didn’t ruin his birthday dinner; they ruined it. You Are Not a bad wife!!!
How did the ex know where he would be celebrating his birthday
I wouldn’t be happy about that either.
Should he have told her that his ex still has feelings for him? I don’t think so.
This was an unfortunate situation but made even worse by your dramatic departure. Looking at the longterm consequences in a marriage that you hope to continue, it might have worked out better had you stayed–admittedly ruining the birthday event for yourself–and talked it out the next day with your husband when emotions had cooled. Remember, you hope your marriage will be a long term project. By leaving you are now in the ‘bad guy’ role–not him for inviting her to join. AND how did she know about the party? You are now at a disadvantage in finding out what’s really doing on. Best of luck as you need to know the truth.
Girl wake up, he’s talking to her. How else did she know where his party was? Why did he stay instead of going after you? He’s hiding something and I’m betting she ain’t ever really been out of the picture. He’s a jackass and you deserve better.
I think there is three people in your marriage. He is at fault here. You are not an a..hole! Hire an investigator because I believe he’s cheating on you!