A guy asks a girl on a date, then tries all his best moves, and she refuses. So he moves on. If he would have stuck around, he would’ve been called a harasser; wouldn’t he? In a recent Quora post, a girl made the internet chuckle by asking why her date wasn’t a mind reader and didn’t pursue her after giving a negative response about a first date.
The woman wrote, “A guy asked me out today, and I told him “no,” but I wanted him to try harder. Why didn’t he try again?” “Surely a question like this deserves more than just a simple answer, and that’s exactly what the woman got.” Thanks to Ron Rule’s response, the inquirer should have understood it. Read his response below!
After this word exchange, the advice on what to ask and what not to ask flowed like rain, which helped demask the silly games girls play on men who aren’t paying attention.
A strange question was asked on Quora:
Fortunately, this guy provided a useful example for the inquirer:
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Our Take
She should not have told him “No,” when she wanted him. We’re living in 2022, and people don’t believe in mind games anymore; say what you want – it’s simple.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this woman’s question? Share your take in the comments below!
IMO, playing these games is stupid. She got what she deserved.
For some reason this reminds me of a story that happened 40 years ago, A mutual friend asked our friend Ben to ask out his homely little sister. She was 26 at the time and had not had a date in 6 years.
Barry called her up on Thursday night after her brother asked him to.
Believe it or not, she turned him down!
Later, she told her brother that Barry had a lot of nerve calling her on Thursday night for a Saturday night date!
(She still is not married)
I chased after a girl for going on ten years. On again off again.
The last time she left she was with someone else days later.
I told her if you don’t want me I’m going to need to find someone who wants me, and wants what I want.
If you want me enough to keep coming back youre going to have to come to terms with loosing someone cause you didn’t take them seriously.
That’s on her.
Fast forward 3.5 years. She comes at me with some didn’t we have fun though? Shit. I’m like for all that was good, the games weren’t fun.
She’s like you must really hate me.
I’m like no. I feel sad for her, but there’s no place in my life as a married family man for that.
Nope.
Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.
The rule for me is if a girl say’s no she means it and that is that. Otherwise if you do try again your a stalker and maybe a rapist, if you guess wrong about what she really wants…so why risk the hassle.
People never believed in mind games in caveman times or the 1800s. That sh!t probably got you killed. Who is writing this? Lmfao
I don’t like or indulge in head games. If one has any in site into analyzing an individual, use it. if you don’t then you just have to go with the flow, and I am sure you will figure it out sooner or later. Hopefully sooner for your sake.
That was nothing but a game she was playing can’t anybody be real anymore say what you mean and mean what you say the mind games are just too much effort and work into it when you could put that effort and work into something better than games
No means no!!! Right? Crazy women
His mother raised a gentleman, she said no, he accepted it. If you want to play games, buy a deck of cards, it’s more fun!
1. Loose the expectations you have on people. You will be much happier.
2. Respect people for who they are. If you don’t like them, move on.
3. Be transparent. Don’t play games with people, esp their emotions.
Ever hear of the saying “no means no”?
Why should we pursue a No… it means no… remember?
what’s the harm in saying yes, it’s only a date…
nothing physical
I ask — may I see you socially??
No one can read your mind.
Be honest and straight forward in your communication
“People don’t play mind games anymore” Maybe its because its early, and I’ve yet to finish my coffee – but that sounds suspiciously vise to the stupidest thing I’ve ever heard. I love hearing younger generations espouse how they are so far beyond their predecessors… its always been good for a laugh!
Women need to say what they mean , don’t play games, don’t test me to see what i will do. I make decisions based on what you say and do. Don’t say no if you really mean you are interested. Be straight forward it’s hard enough to find that special person, why make it more difficult?
Good thing he did not try again. It is your fault for pretending to be what you are not. You want something from someone, you get the proposal, you say no to it…suck it up.
Why didn’t he try harder? That’s a stupid question with an easy answer. Obviously, you weren’t worth the effort.