There are some lessons that you learn in life from things that you never want to go through with yourself but, life isn’t a basket of roses and odds are that you have gone through them more than once and learnt something from them maybe even on a small-scale or quite a huge one, but learnt nevertheless. Like you never knew that jumping off of the stairs with an umbrella because it worked for the pink panther, would land you with a cast but it taught you a lesson to never imitate stuff which defies physics and you started listening to your parents more often or like that time when you knew getting too close to that specific guy would leave you heartbroken, but you still went ahead with it because in that moment, he made you feel better than you have ever felt or even like that time when the same guy lied to you and took you for granted yet somehow, he had the audacity to make you feel like you were the reason for the break up.
We all learn lessons from the circumstances which we encounter throughout our lives. Some might leave us with beautiful memories which we constantly replay in our minds while others can be pretty painful and we wish and try our hardest to forget about them completely. Either way, good or bad, at the end of the day we emerge as better people by learning and moving forward from those memories.
Similarly, when someone has been cheated on, it feels as if they have been teleported into this whole new world where nothing is like how it used to be. The definition of love is completely changed forever. A reality that they had always heard about but thought that they had gone through the necessary precautions to never have to come face to face with themselves. They might feel alone and feel like no one is either like them or getting them. Honestly, there are many people like that and perhaps by hearing my experiences, you’ll learn some yourselves.
Betrayal is another word for cheating because let’s face it, the trust is lost and it sucks which destroys a lot of happy memories or plans mercilessly, but it also reveals many realities to us which makes us stronger and better people than before.
These are some facts that I learned when I was cheated on as well, and not once but twice, and here is why I feel bittersweet about them. Bitter because I mean, I was cheated on but sweet because:
1. You finally understand that sometimes love actually does go to waste
The harsh reality of this world is that some of your actions are rewarded and some are just wasted no matter how much you poured your heart into them. You cannot figure out why it happened and why to you. You can’t ever really get the answer to the question you will constantly ask yourself after being cheated on, “Why me?” You can think about it all you want to look in every direction of your ‘happy’ relationship but won’t be able to find the answer. I have an answer to that, you loved way too hard and way too much, you thought about the future and day dreamed about life with your partner, you gave all that you had to give and you didn’t think twice because that was your kind of selfless love, and this type of pure and innocent love does not deserve somebody who cannot even be loyal or decent enough towards you.