You know that thing you do where you see your guy talk, see his lips moving and hear what he is saying but do not feel anything? And then at other times, you actually hear him, feel how much he means what he is saying and have it move the very marrow of your bones? You do not really love your guy in the first case, so you just hear. But you do care and love him in the second case, so you listen.

Almost everyone likes to hear some words of flattery. It is only when the listener is genuinely interested in the speaker that their words sink in. Guys tell women almost every flowery phrase of flattery… mostly to get laid. And there is nothing wrong with that, except when his woman neither cares nor is looking for such a thing. It is important, therefore, to want someone and have them want you for the same reason.

Men whispering words of sweet emotion in women’s ears will not get them anywhere if women do not even care to begin with. Their minds must be interested, hearts beating with love’s rhythm, eyes thirsty for sincerity… and not just for a one-night stand.

Some things coming from one person could mean as empty as a ghost whereas those same words, coming from someone we care about a lot can make us feel so much, it even surprises us.

Here, we sum up some commonly heard things men say to women that can be used either to get into their pants or live up to their true meanings.

  1. ‘I love you’

There are too many mediocre things in the world today. Love shouldn’t be one of them. Sadly, around 90% of the time, when men say I love you to a woman, they mean it as blankly as saying hello. Women won’t buy your love card – at all – if they themselves aren’t interested in you.