“The more you overthink the less you will understand.” – Habeeb Akande
Before I even begin, I'll talk about myself. I've been an overthinker for as long as I can remember. It developed overtime due to my past and I've been fighting it ever since. I've gotten much better with time because it was only damaging my life and my relationships.
Overthinking is like a disease, it only gets worse with time if left untreated. I've been doing a lot of things to make sure my mind stays at peace and the overthinking stays at a minimum. But I'm still learning and I wanted to share what I've learned so far with all of you guys, because I know a LOT of you are suffering from this. Let's begin.
9. Accept the fact that you overthink and it's bad
The first step to recovery is actually admitting the problem and accepting it as a whole. You need to stop telling yourself that it's okay to overthink, because it's not. And you also need to establish it very clearly in your mind that overthinking is bad and harmful for you and it can damage you and the people around you. When one small thought crosses your mind, you're going to take it to another thought and you'll pretty soon find yourself in a maze of thoughts and you wouldn't know where to stop - I call this the "Limbo of Thoughts" and we all have been there at least once in our lives.
I'll take you guys through what personally happened with me when I was an excessive overthinker. I used to start thinking about one problem, that one problem used to remind me of other problems and I'd start linking them together. From those links, I'd find very old problems that had died down months ago and I would connect them with my current problems. In the end, I'd spent hours thinking about something that wasn't really that big of a deal to begin with but now it is. That's how I damaged myself and the people who cared for me. And that's what I want you guys to save yourselves from. So first things first, admit the problem and SEE it as a problem and not a positive feature. Overthinking is NOT the same as thinking wisely. *Continue reading on next page*