Yes, you are a strong and independent woman. You are perfectly capable of achieving success in this life on your own and you don’t necessarily need a relationship to validate your self-worth. And no one is questioning that at all. You need to always stay true to who you are on the inside; and you shouldn’t really think much of how other people see you. Always speak your truth; stand up for yourself. Always fight for what you believe in and don’t allow yourself to be a mindless zombie who is so easily influenced by other people.
You’re only going to make your life a living hell if you keep on trying to live it based on the standards and expectations of those around you. You always need to be doing what makes you happy; the things that give you joy and fulfilment in life. Yes, not everyone is going to agree with you along the way; and that’s okay. Some people are going to shake their heads in disapproval, and that’s fine. You always need to be forging your own path because it’s your life. You get to decide what you’re going to do with it. You get to decide how exactly you want to live it. And this also applies to the dating world.
You don’t want to be pretending like you’re a different person just to please the guy that you’re interested in. You don’t want to be acting fake. You only want to be putting forth your real and genuine self. You would never want to be turning yourself into someone you’re not comfortable with being. You never want to be compromising you sense of identity just for a guy; and that’s always a good philosophy to have. However, it’s also important to note that it’s okay for you to be mindful of how men see you when you’re dating them. You don’t want to be living in your own bubble. You don’t want to be oblivious to other peoples’ perceptions of you.
You don’t want to be completely naïve of how other people see you. To a certain extent, you’re always going to need an outsider’s perspective if you truly want to be a well-rounded human being. At the end of the day, relationships are about mutual attractions; and no one is going to be attracted to you if you just keep on acting selfishly.
1. When you’re on your first date.
It’s the first date. You always want to make a good first impression when you’re just meeting someone for the first time.
2. When you want him to propose to you.
If you want him to REALLY commit to you; if you want your man to get down on one knee and ask you to marry him, then you need to be wife-material. You need to know that you’re doing your part in making him feel okay with committing to you.
3. When you want his family to accept you as one of their own.
You always want to do your part in getting his family to like you. You are essentially merging lives if you’re going to fall in love; and you want to make that process as seamless as possible.
4. When you’re on a job interview and your interviewer is a man.
Naturally, you’re always going to want to know what your interviewer thinks of you if you’re going to want to get in his good graces. A little self-awareness can go a long way in a job interview.
5. When you are meeting your guy’s friends for the first time.
You always want to make sure that his friends like you; that you feel accepted in the group. Not that you need their approval or anything; but it would be nice of you to make an effort.
6. When you feel like your man is about to break up with you.
If you have a gut feeling that your man is about to end things with you, and you want to change his mind, you’re going to have to care about what he thinks. You’re going to need to make adjustments.
7. When you want to know how you can be a better girlfriend.
You always want to be making sure that you are doing whatever you can to be the best girlfriend possible; and part of that is being open to his suggestions and criticisms of you.
8. When you’re truly serious about eventually finding love.
If you’re really serious about finding true love, you can’t just be thinking about yourself all of the time anymore. You need to make space in your life to accommodate another human being.
9. When you want your man to realize something you don’t like about him.
You can’t be selfish. If you expect him to change his ways and get rid of the bad habits that drive you nuts, you’re going to have to do the same for him.