1. “I really want to have lots of kids in the future.”
NO TALK OF CHILDREN. Why would you be thinking that far ahead when you’re only on your first date? This would be the quickest way to just scare your man off into the wilderness. And you’re going to be left with nothing to show for it.
2. “My ex was really annoying.”
No talks of ex on the first date either. He doesn’t want to have to listen to you talk about how you hated your exes. He doesn’t want to be hearing about your exes at all. He wants to be focused on you and who YOU are.
3. “My parents are absolutely crazy.”
This is going to be a big red flag for him. If he knows that your parents are crazy, then he’s just going to assume that you’re crazy as well. To be safe, stay away from all talks surrounding family life for now. That’s a discussion for another time.
4. “I think that you’re the one.”
Really? After the first date? You think that he’s the guy you’re going to spend the rest of your life with? Well, if he’s crazy enough to think the same, then that could be good news. But then again, what are the chances that he’s actually crazy?
5. “So how much do you earn in a year?”
Keep money off the table for now. Just be content with the fact that he’s likely going to offer to pay for your date. You don’t have to know how much he’s earning just yet. It’s the first date. A person’s income is far too serious a discussion to have when you barely know each other.
6. “This is what you really need to do.”
And you shouldn’t be giving him unsolicited advice. Number one, he didn’t ask you for any kind of guidance. Number two, he barely knows you. And number three, it’s just none of your business. You shouldn’t be sticking your nose into places it doesn’t belong.
7. “Is it okay if I respond to this text message?”
No. It isn’t. Put your phone away and just live in the moment. Your social media feeds and group chats can wait. Focus on your date and the person who’s sitting right across you.
8. “Wow, that guy at the next table is really good-looking.”
When you’re on a firs date, it’s absolutely integral that you place all of your focus and attention on the date itself and the person you’re with. The moment that your eyes start to stray on to other men, he’s going to notice; and he’s not going to want to take part in any of that.
9. “I have often been told that I am high-maintenance.”
And that’s definitely not something to be proud of just yet. Even if it’s true, this is the kind of information about yourself that you want him to find out later on. You shouldn’t be describing yourself in this manner on the first date just yet.
10. “How many women have you ever been intimate with?”
There should be no discussions of sexual histories on the first date – in whatever capacity. In fact, avoid all talks of sex as much as possible. Keep things light and innocent. You don’t necessarily want to be getting hot and heavy on the first date right away.
11. “Do you want to be my date to a wedding?”
Woah woah woah. How about you just focus on the date that you’re in right now for the moment? If things start to develop between the two of you, then maybe you can begin discussing where you’re headed as a couple. You shouldn’t be locking him down for future events just yet.
12. “Perhaps you would be interested in investing in this wonderful opportunity I have for you.”
Why would you want to turn an innocent and romantic first date into a business meeting? You’re here to find love, not to make money. And by saying this line, you’re just going to end up failing on both counts.
13. “Have you accepted the love of God?”
No one likes a preachy human being – especially when it’s done outside of a church. He went on this date with you because he’s interested in getting to know you and starting a relationship. He doesn’t want to have to be evangelized by you.
14. “I’m not really looking for anything serious right now.”
Well, then why are you even dating at this point? You are essentially telling him that there isn’t going to be a second date.
15. “I think I’m falling in love with you.”
NOT ON THE FIRST DATE. You shouldn’t be scaring him off like this. Be careful never to utter the L word on the first place – not even in emergency situations. You are going to come off as overly aggressive; and he might even think that you’re slightly crazy.
