Ladies, this is for you.
The male brain isn’t as complicated as you think. In fact, he’s going to be very simple-minded. He’s not going to demand a whole lot of things from you. He isn’t going to put too much meaning into things and he isn’t going to read too much into various situations. But the problem with men is that they’re never going to be expressive about their emotions or their expectations in the relationship. They won’t want to put themselves in the vulnerable position of having to open up to you. And so you are left to play mind reader a lot of the time. Of course, you always have to be mindful and sensitive of whatever you say to your man. He most likely isn’t going to tell you that you’re upsetting him when you say something rude or insensitive.
He isn’t going to tell you when a comment is hurtful. He is going to keep it to himself and his feelings will eventually build up to the point of destruction. So you should never let it get to that point. While every relationship is unique, there are some basic universal concepts that you should always adhere to when it comes to communication. Communication is always important in any relationship, but there is constructive communication and there is destructive communication. It all depends on the kinds of things that you are going to choose to talk about.
Make sure that you stay away from destructive points of communication so as not to upset your man. If you keep making the mistake of continuing to bring up these unacceptable talking points, then you are going to risk losing your man forever. Here are a few things that you should never tell your man if you want to continue to keep him in your life.
1. You should never actively bring up your exes during your conversations.
The general rule of thumb is this: unless your man asks you about your romantic history, you should never bring it up. Make it a point to never deliberately bring up the subject of your exes during your conversations. He doesn’t want to hear about how handsome your ex used to be. He doesn’t want to hear about how your ex was great in bed or how he had a nice personality. In fact, he doesn’t even want to hear about how horrible or toxic your ex was. Even negative comments about your ex are a big no-no.
The fact of the matter is that he just doesn’t want to hear about your ex at all. If you bring up your ex out of the blue, he is going to start wondering why your ex is still on your mind in the first place. Don’t give him that insecurity.
2. You should never make any punitive comments that would bruise his ego or diminish his manhood.
A man’s ego is his entire life. He will always pride himself on his personality and his abilities to take care of himself and the people he loves the most. Yes, he is going to be prone to a lot of mistakes as all human beings are, but he isn’t going to handle failure as well as women do. Men have very fragile egos and it doesn’t take a lot to bring them down. Even the slightest mistake will be enough to bring about a lot of insecurity in them. That’s why it’s important for you to never kick him while he is down.
If you notice that your man is going through a slump, try building him up into something better. Don’t ever make any harsh comments or make him feel worse than he already is. A man needs support, not a lecture. If he sees that you can’t be supportive of him during the toughest times of his life, then he isn’t going to want you to be there when he’s at his best either.
3. You should never say anything bad about his mother.
A real man’s mother is his whole life. Before he decides to make you the most important woman in his life, his mother is always going to be on top. He is going to regard his mother as a queen and you always have to remember that. The moment that you decide to say anything negative about his mother, he is going to want nothing to do with you.
A man is always going to show appreciation for the woman who raised him and made him into who he is now. So whenever you decide to attack the most important person in his life, perhaps you should rethink it. No one is going to win in this situation and you will be unintentionally initiating the premature demise of your relationship.
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Ladies, how many of you are guilty of this? Talk to me in the comments below!