Not all of us are lucky enough to get things right the first, second, or third time. Sometimes, our love stories don’t always play out the way that we envisioned them at the start. Things can get really ugly really quick if we’re not careful. A lot of times, these bad relationships can leave us scarred and emotionally drained.
Not all of us are lucky enough to get things right the first, second, or third time. Sometimes, our love stories don’t always play out the way that we envisioned them at the start. Things can get really ugly really quick if we’re not careful. A lot of times, these bad relationships can leave us scarred and emotionally drained. We have to understand that when we go into relationships, along with making progress as a couple, they always have to end up helping us becoming better as individuals as well.
If we’re stuck in relationships that end up having us deteriorate our values and our personalities, then these relationships are very bad for us. They don’t bode well for our psychology and we can’t afford to remain stuck in these kinds of relationships unless we’re okay with losing ourselves completely.
Bad relationships don’t necessarily have to mean that they’re bad for you though. There are some bad relationships that don’t work out, but you end up learning a lot from the experience. These relationships may have exposed you to the hardships of love and romance. They have helped you mature as a human being, and it’s okay to go through these kinds of relationships. However, there are some bad relationships that you should really avoid at all costs. These relationships don’t add any value to your life at all. In fact, they take away from your life and it can be difficult to rebuild yourself back again.
It should be in your best interests to always avoid these kinds of relationships at all costs. These kinds of experiences are emotional rollercoasters that could potentially taint your view on love and on humanity. These relationships are like massive typhoons that wreak havoc on anything and anyone it touches, leaving only scraps and broken debris in its wake. In the interest of yourself, and those who are close to you, once you find yourself in this kind of relationship, you should probably get out as quick as you can. It’s not too difficult to spot whenever you’re in a harmful relationship, and we’re here to help you out with that. Just heed out this signals so you’ll know when you need to act. Here are 5 signs that you’re stuck with someone who’s bad for you:
1. You’re always making excuses about how they behave (both in private and in public).
You’re ashamed of your partner and you know it. But somehow, a part of you always tries to justify their odd behavior. When they mistreat you in private, or when they’re acting crude in front of your friends, you try to make up an excuse on your partner’s behalf. You don’t ever want to come to terms with the fact that your partner is bad for you and you should probably just walk away. Sometimes, it’s better to just face the music and acknowledge that your partner is flawed and there’s just no excuse for it.
2. There is constant fear and anger whenever you interact with each other.
You walk on eggshells whenever you’re interacting with each other because you both know that the slightest move could trigger a social explosion between the two of you. You both have bottled up resentment for each other that neither of you can resolve, and this resentment covers a variety of issues that concern your relationship. You always think that you have to be careful with what you say to each other, and you can never be comfortable enough to just let yourself loose. You avoid any altercations because you know your relationship can’t take much more of them. – Continue reading on the next page
3. You second-guess your decisions and you lose complete confidence in how you’re running the relationship.
You’re no longer certain of the direction your relationship is going because you start second-guessing your decisions. Your relationship is stagnant and so you put your life on hold as a result of it. You don’t think you have any moves left to take in your life and so everyone is going past you while you’re just left standing. You don’t know if you’re allowed to move forward because you think your relationship is holding you back.
4. You suppress your feelings and emotions for the sake of temporary peace.
You avoid confrontations at all cost because you know your relationship has had enough squabbles to last you multiple lifetimes. You don’t ever want to upset your partner because you don’t think your relationship can handle another fight. And so you engage in emotional dishonesty with yourself. You try to put on a brave and happy face even when you know that things are wrong. What you lack however, is the courage and bravery to just end things now and move on in life.
5. Your attempts at fixing the relationships are always futile.
You’ve tried anything. You’ve tried open communication and you’ve tried suppressed feelings. You’ve tried being strong and you’ve also tried making compromises but you haven’t noticed any substantial improvement. You’re relationship has plateaued. It’s getting worse, even. And there’s just no escaping the inevitable. You’re going to have to end things if you know what’s good for you.
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