5 Steps to save a failing relationship
There are times when even though you love each other, the relationship just isn’t working out as you wanted it to. This tends to take over other areas of your life as well, and you’re always distressed and distracted.
In that time you might have grown apart from each other so much so that you would consider putting an end to your misery, which would mean ending your relationship.But before coming to such a decision, you should consider trying to make it work despite everything. After all, you got into the relationship for a reason in the first place.
Hopefully, a few of the ways stated below might help you save your relationship from doom.
Get rid of misunderstandings
Communication is the key element in any relationship. Lack of it gives rise to misunderstandings. Even though the obvious need not be stated, but there are things that you can’t expect your partner to just know or understand on their own, without telling them. Stop considering them to be mind readers. You need to start talking to them about the things that are important to you and how you feel about certain matters. You should also be open to hearing what they have to say. Talk over your differences and settle them together. Misunderstandings create distance which in turn tends to increase to the point that it might drive you two apart. Don’t let misunderstandings get in the way of your relationship, and even if they do, do away with them.
Rekindle the love
With the passage of time people tend to stop making efforts like they used to at the start of the relationship which turns out to be the worst mistake ever. Because it results in both the partners feeling unloved and unappreciated. They think that their relationship is losing meaning and that maybe they’re better off on their own. Just because you have them in your life doesn’t mean you can take them for granted. Make them feel wanted. Both of you know that the love is there, but it’s always a good idea to express those feelings of love every now and then. This not only strengthens your bond with your partner but they’re more appreciative of you.
Take a walk down memory lane
When your relationship is on the line, and you’re going back and forth between wanting to save it or to end it, just take a break from it walk down memory lane. Go through photos, read old conversations, talk about the trips you took together and the things you did. This will remind you of the irreplaceable memories, feelings and love that you two share. It will incline both of you towards saving the relationship and working on the root of your problems. A reminder of what two people have shared over time keeps them from throwing away their relationship that has a shot at being saved.
Don’t be controlling of each other
Some people tend to be very controlling of everything. Even if you belong to this category, NEVER EVER try to control your partner. Put yourself in their shoes and you’ll realize how unnerving it is to be constantly controlled by someone. It creates feelings of resentment, which is never healthy for a relationship. It would make them want to get away from you every chance they get. Let them be themselves, after all, you fell in love with them for the person they are. The most comforting thing in a relationship is the liberty to be your true-self and being accepted for who you are. No one wants to be in a suffocating relationship, and such relationships rarely survive.
Don’t be selfish
You can’t be selfish in a relationship and then expect everything to be fine. Love should inculcate in you the habit of placing your loved one even before yourself. There can’t be a relationship where you only look out for yourself without having any regard for your partner. You can’t assume that they would put up with such behavior for long. They wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t even care for them let alone do something for them. A relationship isn’t about one person benefitting from it while the other person gains nothing. It’s about doing what is in the best interest of both the individuals as a couple.
So if you feel like things aren’t just working out anymore and maybe the only way out is ending it, just pause and reflect upon your part in the relationship. Be critical of what you have given to the relationship. Maybe you’ll find that you need to make a few changes and that you haven’t been treating them right or ignoring them all in all. If this is the case, make amends. Since a relationship requires two people working together to make it last, both the partners should be thinking on the same lines. No positive outcomes will be seen if only one of the partners is trying to fix things while the other is fixed on ending it. Once you decide that the relationship is worth keeping, make sure your partner feels the same way and maybe you two will find a way to work it out.