Some solid tips to help you move on!
Have you heard that new John Mayer track from his latest album? It’s called Moving On and Getting Over. It’s a worldwide hit and there’s a reason for that. The process of moving on resonates with just so many people. It’s a virtually universal experience that a lot of us are going to be able to relate to either because we’ve had to do it ourselves, or we’ve seen people struggle with it. So if you ever feel like you’re alone in this process of trying to move on from a failed relationship, then you should know that you’re not the only one who is suffering in this world.
But granted, just because you know that other people are suffering along with you doesn’t totally invalidate your suffering. And it’s so much more difficult if you are being heartbroken for the VERY FIRST TIME. There are very few struggles in the world that are able to equal having to get over your very first love. There’s something that’s always going to be special about falling in love for the first time with someone.
A lot of people are going to tell you that it feels virtually impossible to get over a first love especially when the wound is still fresh. It doesn’t matter whether you were the one who did the dumping or if you were the one who was dumped. The feeling is always going to leave a sting on your heart and you’re not going to be able to get rid of it in an instantaneous manner. Plenty of heartbroken individuals will attest that there is no feeling quite like having to get over a breakup with your very first love.
But what you have to remember as you are going through this treacherous ordeal is that you are going to turn out just fine. Everything is going to be alright and it’s very important for you to remind yourself of that. There is a light at the end of the tunnel no matter how dark things may seem at the moment. But when you’re feeling particularly vulnerable, helpless, and downright depressed, here are a few tricks that you can try out to help you get over it.
While every person moves on from heartbreak in their own ways and in their own time, that doesn’t mean you have to sit idly by and let your emotions consume you. You can actively participate in the process of moving on and getting over by actually practicing a few of these things:
1. Go on a social media cleanse.
Social media can be the devil whenever you are trying to get over someone. Remember the goal here is to forget about all of the feelings that your ex ever gave you. Seeing your ex on social media isn’t really going to help remedy the situation that you’re in.
2. Live in the present and try to let go of the past.
You can’t forget about the past. You shouldn’t. The past is important because your experiences all throughout your life have helped shape you into becoming the person that you are today. But you should also be able to accept that everything that happened in the past belongs to the past. You still have full control of who you are today and how you choose to live your life now. And your future is going to depend on all of the choices that you make today.
3. Keep your body moving.
Sometimes, the best way to get rid of the negative emotions in your life is to just work things out… literally. Try hitting the gym regularly for a hard workout and you will realize just how beneficial a good exercise can be for your body and your soul. Not only will you be overloading yourself on endorphins and natural happiness, but you will love the positive results that regular exercise can bring for your body. So head on over to the gym and channel all of your sadness into some mechanical energy.
4. Stop feeling compelled to update yourself on the whereabouts of your ex.
Ignorance is bliss sometimes. This is connected to you going on your social media cleanse. The best way for you to just move on from your ex is to just forget about them for a while. Stop feeling like you always have to be updated about what your ex is doing. Start focusing on your own life and all of the things that you have going on for you. You don’t always have to be keeping tabs on your ex.
5. Take better care of your body.
Start living a better and healthier lifestyle. Aside from going on regular workouts, you should do other things to take care of yourself as well. Enrich your soul by reading more books and trying out new hobbies. Learn how to cook and eat healthier food. Go to sleep and wake up early to feel more productive throughout the day.
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