You never want to go into a relationship with a naïve heart and an immature mind. You always want to make sure that you are informed of the many truths and realities that come with true-to-life relationships.
You might have a vague idea of what love is supposed to be based on the movies and the romance novels. But these fairytale fantasies and narratives are far from what love is truly going to be like in real life.
These stories are far from the real-life narratives that so many couples live with every day. And you really need to learn that if you don’t want to get blindsided by the many harsh truths that come with falling in love and getting into relationships.
You might be someone who isn’t so experienced in love. You might be someone who is just falling in love for the first time. That’s okay. No one expects you to have all of the answers going into it. However, you don’t want to risk missing out on a chance at love just because you had unreasonable expectations going into love.
You don’t want to let your ignorance be the reason for you not being able to make things last with someone special. That’s why this article is absolutely vital for you. If you are completely delusional or are just plain uninformed of everything that comes with love and relationships, then this article is definitely for you.
Remember to keep an open mind and that many of these things might be taken differently by so many different people. Relationships aren’t always going to be the same for every couple. However, it’s safe to assume that a lot of these truths and realities hold true for almost everyone.
1. Your partner isn’t someone who is meant to complete you.
Your partner isn’t someone who is going to bring a sense of completion or happiness to your life. Yes, they can help make you happy. But ultimately, genuine happiness and contentment is something that you must always find within. It’s something that you find in yourself.
2. You should still maintain friendships and relationships outside of your own.
You should still make it a point to maintain friendships and relationships outside of your romantic entanglement. Yes, you have both committed to spending the rest of your lives together. But that doesn’t mean that you shut everyone else out. You should still try to have friends outside of your relationship.
This is going to help take off some of the pressure in your relationship. You can’t be content with having your partner as the only person you turn to for social interaction. You can also gather a substantial perspective from other people in your life as well.
3. You will have arguments and it’s important that you aren’t afraid of them.
Just because you love one another doesn’t mean that you are always going to see eye to eye on everything. Just because you’re in love doesn’t mean that you’re always going to be on the same page. You are still going to have your fair share of arguments and fights.
You are still going to have some disagreements. And that’s fine. It’s normal. However, it’s important for you to remember to never walk away from these arguments. You shouldn’t be shoving your issues underneath the carpet. You can’t fix your problems if you just ignore them. You always need to be brave enough to actually confront your issues if you want to solve them.
4. It’s okay for you two to still want space from each other.
You are your own person. You are going to have your own individual personality. You have your own goals and aspirations. You have your own dreams. None of these things go away just because you get into a relationship with someone. And it’s perfectly normal for you to still own up to who you are even if you’re already in a relationship.
It’s okay for you to ask for space from your partner and take joy in being on your own every once in a while. It’s okay for you to still want some solitude every so often in your relationship.
5. You are not going to be free from temptations.
You aren’t always going to be free from temptations just because you get into a relationship with someone you love. You are still going to find other people attracted. And that’s fine. You shouldn’t really be too worried at the idea of you having a physical attraction for someone else.
You shouldn’t be threatened by the thought of your partner having a crush on someone who isn’t you. That’s all part of human nature. All that matters is that you don’t really do anything that threatens your relationship. It’s all a matter of controlling yourself and making sure that you resist these temptations at all times.