Trust Issues, don’t get me started on them…
I’m not trying to demean men here, but this article came about after a female friend of mine talked to me about her recent experiences. And I gave her the stage to talk it out. Here she is:
Everyone we meet leaves behind a mark on us and our lives, some leave scars! We all do small things that might not mean to us a lot but could affect other person greatly, this goes for everyone.
It isn’t just them, we get affected as well and we might not even realise it till it hits us in the face, not even then at times. Humans are naturally capable, in fact not just capable but actually MADE to trust and depend on others, especially emotionally. Something, somewhere goes wrong that we start altering our view towards life and people. Something in us breaks that becomes our handicap for life, a hidden handicap.
The biggest and most common handicap we face is trust! It isn’t easy to trust people when it comes to your emotions because all of us have suffered the pain of being deceived, betrayed, taken for granted or simply made to feel non-existent.
Though this is common in men and women both but I’d rather talk from my experience than any others. Here are the six kinds of men who have given women trust issues.
1. THE ONE WHO PROMISES MORE THAN HE CAN DELIVER
It is important not to give anyone false hope. Not keeping promises might make a huge difference to someone. You falling short of doing what you promise, constantly, makes you the only non-constant thing in someone’s life and you can only fight for so long to keep a non-constant person in your heart, even if you decide to compromise and let him be in your life.
Also, a person who can break promises or not keep them at all can also leave you and move on.
2. THE ONE WHO ONLY TEXTS AT NIGHT AND HITS ON YOU
Like seriously, don’t you think women get the hint what you are really looking for when you try and make them a part of your nights and remain lost during the days?
We do get that we are your alternative for a lonely night and that is exactly why we don’t trust you.
3. THE ONE WHO DISAPPEARS LIKE HE NEVER EXISTED
This is weird, why would someone chat with you, hangout with you 24/7 and suddenly stop all of that one day? They start saying they have gone busy and will surely meet up when things get sorted.
And we all know that they never do. Continue reading on next page
4. THE ONE WHO TALKS TO EVERY GIRL LIKE HE TALKS TO YOU, BUT TELLS YOU OTHERWISE
He would call you his sunshine and tell you how special it is for him to call you that. He would say that your happiness is the only thing that matters to him. He would go ahead and try to keep a check if you are taking care of yourself and are happy. You find that so sweet and you think you are falling for him but then you find out that is exactly how he talks to four other friends and they are all just friends, JUST LIKE YOU!
They leave your head so messed up that you are stuck in between hoping that you really are special and to forget him because you know he is trouble
5. THE ONE WHO IS ALWAYS AT YOUR PLACE BUT DOESN’T WANT YOU TO COME TO THEIRS
This is such a sinking feeling because you have really gotten attached to this person when you start inviting them over to your place but them being reluctant to invite you over to theirs really rings all the alarms in our heads.
What is he hiding? Have I jumped into this too soon? Am I just another hookup in his life and nothing else?
6. THE ONE WHO HIDES HIS PHONE
Now I don’t mean that we go on snooping into his phone like a mad obsessed person but the behaviour of the person shows a lot even if you pretend to have an intention like that.
Sometimes, actions speak aloud louder than words. Being a little jittery or trying to keep his phone out of your reach, switching browser windows to hide his Inbox are alarming signs and are an early prediction of the problems about to hit them.
Trust doesn’t happen overnight and it surely doesn’t maintain itself on its own. It takes conscious efforts and a great amount of communication to keep it like that. Involve each other, equally, in each other’s lives so you don’t face another heartbreak in your life, ever.
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Are there any ladies in the house who’ve been through the same experience as I have? How was your experience? Let me know in the comments below.