Undoubtedly, texting someone you like is a skill that you’re going to have to develop if you want to find success in your relationships. After all, we already live in a cyber world. And it’s essential that we can build our skills in communication if we want to find romantic success on these new virtual platforms. Undoubtedly, part of mastering that skill means knowing when you should or when you shouldn’t be texting someone that you like.
Yes, you should show a willingness to engage in text conversations with someone you’re interested in. However, just because you would doesn’t mean that you should. You still need to stay mindful of what this person might feel about you. You don’t want to be wasting your valuable texts on someone who doesn’t seem to be all that into you. Additionally, you want to be checking your state of mind, as well. You might not be in the right mindset to be texting anyone that you are romantically interested in.
Here are a few signs that you should and shouldn’t be texting someone that you like:
1. Don’t text: He hasn’t replied to your texts consistently.
If he doesn’t make a genuine effort to reply to your texts consistently, then don’t text him. He’s just treating you like someone he can turn to whenever it’s convenient for him. However, he doesn’t want anything real or consistent with you.
2. Text him: He initiated the conversation the last time.
If he’s a guy who initiates conversations with you a lot, then you should be willing to do the same for him. After all, a give and take dynamic is always going to be healthy. Otherwise, he might come to think that you’re not into him, and that’s why you never initiate. Consequentially, he might stop beginning with you too.
3. Don’t text: He hasn’t replied to your goodnight text.
If he hasn’t replied to your goodnight text, then stop texting him for that night. You’ve already told him that you’re going to sleep. It would be pathetic for you to follow up on a text with him. Also, he may be already asleep himself. The next book can wait until tomorrow morning.
4. Text him: He asked you out on a date.
It’s okay to text him if he’s asked you out on a date. Perhaps, you can text him to ask about the specifics of the date like where you’re meeting and what time you should get ready. Hashing out details like this is okay through text messages.
5. Don’t text: You’re drunk.
Drunk texts are just a big no-no. Don’t do it.