Undoubtedly, texting someone you like is a skill that you’re going to have to develop if you want to find success in your relationships. After all, we already live in a cyber world. And it’s essential that we can build our skills in communication if we want to find romantic success on these new virtual platforms. Undoubtedly, part of mastering that skill means knowing when you should or when you shouldn’t be texting someone that you like.
Yes, you should show a willingness to engage in text conversations with someone you’re interested in. However, just because you would doesn’t mean that you should. You still need to stay mindful of what this person might feel about you. You don’t want to be wasting your valuable texts on someone who doesn’t seem to be all that into you. Additionally, you want to be checking your state of mind, as well. You might not be in the right mindset to be texting anyone that you are romantically interested in.
Here are a few signs that you should and shouldn’t be texting someone that you like:
1. Don’t text: He hasn’t replied to your texts consistently.
If he doesn’t make a genuine effort to reply to your texts consistently, then don’t text him. He’s just treating you like someone he can turn to whenever it’s convenient for him. However, he doesn’t want anything real or consistent with you.
2. Text him: He initiated the conversation the last time.
If he’s a guy who initiates conversations with you a lot, then you should be willing to do the same for him. After all, a give and take dynamic is always going to be healthy. Otherwise, he might come to think that you’re not into him, and that’s why you never initiate. Consequentially, he might stop beginning with you too.
3. Don’t text: He hasn’t replied to your goodnight text.
If he hasn’t replied to your goodnight text, then stop texting him for that night. You’ve already told him that you’re going to sleep. It would be pathetic for you to follow up on a text with him. Also, he may be already asleep himself. The next book can wait until tomorrow morning.
4. Text him: He asked you out on a date.
It’s okay to text him if he’s asked you out on a date. Perhaps, you can text him to ask about the specifics of the date like where you’re meeting and what time you should get ready. Hashing out details like this is okay through text messages.
5. Don’t text: You’re drunk.
Drunk texts are just a big no-no. Don’t do it.
If you see that he’s consistently commenting on your social media posts, it’s a sign. Go ahead and send him that text message. His persistence on social media is a definite signal for you to message him. After all, social media communication is also valid these days.
7. Don’t text: He doesn’t engage in deep text conversations with you.
If he’s just continually giving you one-word answers and responses, perhaps he’s not that interested in you. Try to look for a guy who only expresses sincere enthusiasm whenever the two of you are conversing. Otherwise, it just wouldn’t be worth it. A bulk of the pressure during conversations lies on you.
8. Don’t text: You feel forced to follow up just because…
Sometimes, your friends can tell you that someone is great, and you need to be texting him all of the time. Other times, you might feel pressured to text a guy just because you are desperate to be in a relationship. However, these are all the wrong motivations. The only reason you should ever text a guy is if you’re genuinely interested in him.
9. Text him: You have something you want to get off your chest.
Text him if you have something that you want to get off your chest. After all, if you don’t, it might just continue to eat away at your insides. And you don’t want that. Sometimes, a girl needs closure. And if you feel like the only way to get closure is if you text him, then go ahead.
10: Don’t text: He’s ghosting you.
He’s ghosting you. If he isn’t replying to you, then you shouldn’t be giving him the satisfaction of texting him all of the time. Know your worth. Sometimes, no matter how hard you try, it just isn’t going to work out the way that you want it to. And you have to be okay with that.