In-laws can be tough.
The meeting of your significant other’s family is always going to be a big deal. It’s a big step in a relationship during the introduction to the families. It’s not something that people in relationships should be taking lightly. It’s not something that anyone could just play down. And while it’s important to not let the pressure get to you, it’s not something that you can completely approach in a casual manner either. You would never want to have your partner’s family hating you. They are the most important people in your partner’s life and you would always want to make a good impression on them.
However, it needs to be said that gaining the affections of your partner’s family isn’t always going to be a guarantee. You could be the most confident person in the world, and you could know that you have a very amiable and likeable personality, but it’s still going to be a very high-pressure scenario when you meet your partner’s folks for the first time. You may not fully grasp just how significant of an influence your partner’s family has on them. One negative comment about you could be enough to send your relationship into complete pandemonium.
And the worst part is that there are so many things that you have to be thinking about. You want to dress well, but you don’t want to overdo it either or else you will risk coming off as snobby. You want to be smart and eloquent but you also don’t want to come off as too strong or arrogant. You want to be funny and charismatic but you don’t want to be thought of as someone who isn’t serious about life. You pore over every single detail of how you act in an effort to make sure that you are giving off the right vibes.
But unfortunately, it happens. Not all people are going to like you even your partner’s family. So it’s important for you to really figure out how they really feel about you so that you can make some adjustments on the fly whenever there’s a need to. If you don’t know that they hate you, and you keep carrying on with behavior that they hate, then you are essentially putting your entire relationship at risk. You can’t have that. You need to develop a sense of self-awareness so that you can know if your partner’s family likes you or not.
But how can you tell for sure? What do you do if you’re feeling completely lost? Well, here are a few signs that you could be looking out for to tell if your partner’s family just isn’t too fond of you.
1. They don’t really express any interest in you.
They don’t ask you questions about your life. They don’t really inquire much about your passions. Whenever the topic of conversation hovers around you, they will immediately try to shift it to something else just to take the attention away from you.
2. They avoid eye contact with you.
One key way to know if your partner’s family just doesn’t like you is if they don’t maintain eye contact with you. If they avoid eye contact with you, it’s because they are uncomfortable with you seeing the truth through their eyes that they’re not all too fond of you.
3. They bombard you with overly aggressive and personal questions.
On the other side of the spectrum of acting completely uninterested in you, you would also know that they don’t like you if they start prying a little too much. They ask you aggressive questions about your career, previous relationships, and your family to try to spot potential flaws in you.
4. You notice that your partner never lets you be alone with them.
They have probably already told your partner that they don’t like you; or your partner has probably figured that out on their own. Regardless, once they know this, they would never leave you alone with their family so as to avoid any awkward situations that might cause unnecessary drama.
5. They don’t invite you out to events or gatherings.
Obviously, if they liked you, they would slowly start integrating you into the dynamics of the family by inviting you for dinners, parties, or other celebrations. But if they don’t really make an effort to spend time with you, then it’s really because they don’t want to accommodate you.
6. They don’t express an interest in getting to know your family.
On top of not wanting to get to know more about you, they also wouldn’t want to get to know your family. They’ve seen enough of you to know that they don’t like what they see
7. Your instincts are telling you that something is up.
And lastly, if your gut is telling you that something is wrong, then that’s because something probably is wrong. Make some adjustments and see how you can improve your situation with your partner’s family.
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