It’s difficult to accept, let alone process the bitter truth that your partner is cheating on you. Because you don’t expect them to hurt you in any imaginable way, it seems surreal when you find out about it. It’s even worse when you confront them and they deny it. You know deep down that they’re keeping something from you and the relationship is not what it used to be, but you keep shrugging off that feeling. You keep telling yourself that it’s probably nothing and your mind is playing games with you. Maybe so, but if that feeling persists, you should do something about it. There’s a good chance that your partner is cheating on you if you start noticing the following signs:
1. They feel like you’re interrogating them
Even if it’s something as simple as asking them about their day, they get irritated and try to make you feel bad for your harmless inquiry. You may think that they’re in a mood, but can someone be irritable all the time? I don’t think so. If they’re unable to answer innocent questions, it’s a pretty clear sign that they are in fact hiding something from you. And it would be your biggest mistake to ignore it.
2. They dodge your calls when they’re out
Lately, they fail to find time to answer your calls or get back to you. The reason usually is work or friends or family. And if they don’t call you back, it’s because they conveniently forgot to do so. No one would fail to notice the change. The person, who was once comfortable talking to you around their friends and family, suddenly doesn’t feel the same way anymore. Maybe it’s time you get them to see you and talk about it.
3. They avoid seeing you
Well if anything, this definitely should be a wake up call. Yes, people get busy, too busy at times, but if they can find time for everyone else but you, it’s pretty obvious that something’s off about the situation. That friend who they’re supposedly always meeting, maybe it’s time you knew a little more about the friend.
4. They NEVER show/let you use their phone
It’s true that no one should have their privacy invaded. Having said that, if they’re absolutely paranoid about you even so much as looking at their phone, then they’re obviously hiding something. And what else would they hide from someone who knows them inside out, the other man/woman of course.
5. The constant lying
The few times that they’re generous enough to answer your questions, all you get are lies. Be it about what they’ve been doing, or where they’ve been, or who they’ve been with, all you get are lies. You shouldn’t be afraid to confront them about the lies just because it’d hurt them or infuriate them. They’re on the wrong here, and no one should allow themselves to be treated like that.
6. The sudden makeover
They’re doing their hair differently, switching wardrobes and working out just because they feel like doing it. Even though you’ve been after them for the longest time to join the gym, they do so long after you’ve given up trying. And it’s not even for you. They don’t even care if you notice the change or not. And you know them too well to be sure that they’re not doing it just for the sake of it. There’s definitely someone else in the picture, someone to take your place.
7. The scent on them is not their own alone
Have they been smelling different lately? You’d obviously know if they were trying a new scent, but that’s not the case. Additionally, you know that it’s something that the opposite gender would be wearing, and that it’s not yours. The last option left is the worst; they’ve been with someone else.
Maybe you fail to notice these signs in them even when they’re present. You feel bad for doubting their loyalty to you. Trust your instinct. If it is persistent on telling you that your partner might be cheating you then it may actually be true. Don’t be afraid of confronting them. Don’t be scared of hurting their feelings, they’re to blame and you’re the one who’s actually been wronged. You shouldn’t allow yourself to be treated like that. Just don’t ignore these signs, when you see them, and then do something about it.