Abuse is NOT okay!
The honeymoon phases of relationships are always great. There are very few human experiences on the face of this earth that can feel as magical as falling in love with a person for the first time. But then, the honeymoon phases never last and the real grind of the relationship is going to set in eventually. There you will soon realize the presence of demons that you never thought were there in the first place. You may have your regrets at first, but some of the demons in a relationship are actually possible to overcome. The best kinds of couples are those who are able to work past their troubles and differences for the sake of their love. They are the ones who are able to endure the hardships that come with being in complex relationships. But also, there will also be some couples whose incompatibility will be just too much for them to overcome any real challenges. Some couples just aren’t meant to be and the weight of the world’s real issues can overpower them.
If you happen to find yourself in a relationship where things just aren’t what you expected them to be, you need to take a long hard look in the mirror. You need to be able to think about whether this is still the kind of relationship that is worth fighting for or if you need to cut your losses. How you choose to go about making this decision relies heavily on whether your partner is actually still worth building a relationship. One thing that you really have to be wary of is a partner who shows signs of being abusive. You never want to be in a relationship with anyone who is going to abuse you. It’s going to be subtle at first, but that’s when it’s the most important for you to take action. You need to call him out on it, or you just need to walk away. Either way, abuse is something that you should never have to tolerate in a relationship. Here are a few signs that your man might be abusive.
1. He will commit himself to you right away.
He won’t even hesitate. He will jump right into deep things with you regardless of whether you’re ready or not. He will want to rush through various stages of the relationship just to be able to lock you down.
2. He will treat you like a prized possession.
He will be incredibly possessive of you once you are in a relationship together. He will act as if he has some sort of ownership over you. He will be controlling of your life and he won’t tolerate you doing anything that doesn’t go through him first. – Continue reading on the next page
3. He will try to baby you and spoil you.
He will buy you everything that you want. He will coddle you to the point where you won’t even have to lift a finger. He will make it seem like things are too good to be true. And that is going to most likely be the case. He’s trying to buy you off. Remember that nothing in life is ever really free. Everything comes with a price.
4. He will guilt you into doing what he wants.
He will make you feel bad on a constant basis. He will use your shortcomings against you. He will use your mistakes as an opportunity for him to make you bend at his will. He will manipulate you by making you feel bad about your own faults.
5. He will isolate you from the outside world.
He won’t want you to draw any strength from anything or anyone from the outside world. He wants you to be dependent solely on him and that’s why he will try to shut you off from everyone else the best way he can. – Continue reading on the next page
6. He will act too needy and dependent on you.
The reason he wants you to need him so much is because he knows just how much he needs you too. He doesn’t want to be seen as the weak one in the relationship and so he will try to bring you up to his level of neediness.
7. He will put you down relentlessly whenever you screw up.
You will never hear the end of it whenever you commit the mistake. He will want to break your spirit and make you feel just how worthless you really are. He doesn’t want you to gain any shred of confidence and so he will not miss any opportunity to make you feel bad.
8. He will make all the decisions in the relationship.
He wants to be the captain of the ship. He doesn’t want to empower you to do anything. He won’t want to make you feel like you have a say in anything at all. He will do his best to make you feel your powerlessness.
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