As human beings, we are the most extraordinary species on earth that don’t just desire social connections and emotional intimacy but cannot live without supportive solid relationships in our lives, whether in the form of a romantic partner, a family member, or a close friend.
Fear of being alone is real, people can’t survive on their own because we need each other for literally everything in life. Sometimes, this fear gets too strong, leading to some people compromising their worth and self-respect and staying in relationships with toxic, manipulative, and bad people.
The fear of being alone stems from past rejection, traumas, or poor self-esteem. People who got rejected before in their lives, have had a traumatic childhood or didn’t grow up with emotionally supportive parents and siblings, due to which they don’t have a high self, often deal with toxic and unhealthy people in relationships.
However, being alone does not necessarily mean staying unhappy and lonely. Sometimes, single people are way more satisfied with their lives and live fulfilling lives than people who are married or in a romantic relationship.
But despite everything, genuine human connection is essential and even if you are not in a relationship, you need good friends and family support in your life.
Here is a list of eight things you need to stop doing if you don’t want to end up alone.
Avoid Isolating Yourself and Withdrawing from Social Situations
If you avoid social gatherings and leave parties, events, and dinners just because you are an introvert and can’t stand people. You need to stop doing that, and instead of staying home all the time and avoiding gatherings, you should look around and try to find someone whose interests align with yours and someone you can resonate with. You will definitely find someone like yourself.
Don’t Rely on Technology to Avoid In-Person Social Interactions
This is the age of social media, sure but that doesn’t mean you should stop connecting with people in real life. Social media apps may provide us a platform to connect with a large number of people simultaneously, but these apps lack emotional bonds and deep connections. So, it’s always better to prefer face-to-face interactions instead of only bonding with someone online.
Don’t Rush into Relationships
Fear of being alone also provokes people to rush into relationships without actually knowing the other person. This can lead to heartache and disappointment as you will not get a chance to understand the other person truly.
Don’t Ignore the Red Flags in Romantic Relationships
If you feel like your partner is toxic – they are a narcissist who manipulates, cheats, lies, and never appreciates you for being you – does not emotionally support you – are over-dominating and degrade you – doesn’t want to regard your feelings and always expect you to do more in the relationship then these are all red flags you need to take into account and rethink your life. Don’t settle with such people or anyone who does not value you.
Don’t Shy Away from Vulnerability and Openness in Relationships
Some people find it hard to become more open and vulnerable in relationships but, it is important to have deep and meaningful connections with other people, including your partners, family members, and friends. Also, communication is the key, you can always connect better with people if you talk things out rather than keeping them to yourself.
Don’t Let Fear of Rejection or Past Hurt prevent you from Putting Yourself Out There
It’s natural to fear rejection based on your past experiences where you have experienced heartbreak. However, if you won’t try to overcome this fear and insecurity, you will never be able to put yourself out there and experience new bonds which might introduce you to a different side of love, all over again.
Don’t Limit Yourself to Only Seeking Out Romantic Relationships
Just like romantic relationships, friendships, family ties, and other connections are equally important. Some people might not get lucky in romantic relationships. These other bonds provide emotional support, companionship, and moral support when you are not doing your best.
Maintain a Work-Life Balance
People need to understand that maintaining a work-life balance is extremely important and if you don’t your personal and professional life both will start getting affected. Work is important, sure, but taking necessary breaks every once in a while will help you reconnect with your friends and family.
