As a human being, you are prone to making a few mistakes here and there. You are going to make a few mistakes in life – and you are going to make a few mistakes in relationships as well. And a lot of the time, these mistakes are forgivable especially if you are able to learn from them quickly. You always want to make sure that you are growing from your mistakes; that you use these as learning experiences to help you become a better person and a better lover.
However, there are also a few times wherein we commit the same mistakes over and over again in a relationship without even realizing it. These are the mistakes that are deadly to our relationships and we must always take action against them. As a woman, you must always make it a point to be self-aware in your place in your relationship. You don’t want to be reckless. You don’t want to just go about your daily life thinking that you’re doing everything perfectly. You maybe doing a million things that are pushing your man farther and farther away from you and he might just not be saying anything because he’s nonconfrontational. And before you know it, your relationship is practically broken and there’s no way to fix things anymore. You don’t want that. And that’s why self-awareness is always important – so you don’t get blindsided by any potential problems in your relationships.
To enlighten you further, this article is going to highlight 10 common mistakes that most women make in relationships without them even realizing it. If you find that you do a lot of the things that are listed here, then you need to make a change if you don’t want to lose your relationship.
1. You routinely browse through his phone’s messages and pictures.
You don’t respect his sense of privacy. You don’t respect his sense of individuality. If you want to know something about his life, then just talk to him. You can’t resort to sneaky behavior like this. You can’t expect him to trust you if you keep going behind his back on things.
2. You force him to develop an interest in everything that you’re interested in.
You don’t HAVE to be interested in the same things for your relationship to work. You can still maintain your individual personalities and learn to coexist with one another in a peaceful and loving manner.
3. You use him as a punching bag whenever you get upset by other aspects of life.
You do not get to use your partner as a punching bag whenever you are feeling stressed out. He is also a human being who is dealing with his personal stresses too. You can’t just explode on him whenever you want. You have to be sensitive when interacting with one another.
4. You put too much pressure on him to be a fairytale boyfriend.
Fairytales only exist in movies and in books. You can’t always pressure your man into being a prince charming. Love him for who he is and push him to only be the best possible version of himself.
5. You want all aspects of your relationship to be easy.
Relationships are never designed to be easy; and if you don’t show a willingness to work hard for it, you are never going to be able to make things work. You have to remember that part of being in a relationship is embracing the struggles that you will both have as a couple.
6. You let go of your individuality in favor of your relationship.
Just because you are now sharing your life with another person doesn’t mean that you should just completely let go of your individuality. You should still be living a life for yourself that you can be proud of.
7. You look for a sense of completion in your relationship.
You can’t rely on your partner to give you a sense of completion in life. That is just far too much pressure to place on your relationship. And it’s really impossible to find completion in another person. You’re going to have to do that for yourself.
8. You don’t open up to your man about your expectations and needs.
If you feel like there are certain needs and expectations that your man isn’t meeting in your relationship, you need to open up about it. You need to be able to talk about these things even when it’s uncomfortable. Otherwise, you might be harboring some ill feelings and bitterness inside of you that could cause you to implode.
9. You allow a power struggle to take place in your relationship.
Relationships should never have to be power struggles. You should never have to be competing with your partner for power in the relationship. Remember, you are supposed to be acting like partners and teammates. You should be trying to help each other through whatever trials you face in life. You shouldn’t be in competition with one another.