Happy relationships are based on mutual compromise and respect. When there is a lack of mutual understanding, things break apart very easily. Such is the case with today’s Reddit story – where a boyfriend breaks up with his girlfriend because she kept ignoring and breaking his food boundaries.
A 22-year-old man, username Hangry_manstarved, posted his story on Reddit’s AITA (Am I the A**hole?) asking whether he was right or wrong for what he did. He wrote:
“I (22m) am in my first serious relationship with H(25f). We have been together just under a year. She moved into my place three months ago.”
“Everything was fine in the beginning but once we started seeing each other more frequently I noticed her bad habit. Every time we went out and food was involved she would sample my food before I got to it. We are not just talking of a chip here and there from my chipbutt sandwich. In actual classy places she would take the first chunk of my steak/salmon/cake. You name it she would take the first bite. I had several talks with her about this, but she said it was cute and not sinister.”
“Four months ago H got a job with training opportunity. After completion when she returns to her normal place the salary will be higher. My place is forty minutes closer than were she used to live and I offered her to live with me rent free if she stopped this behaviour.”
“The first month she stuck to our agreement. The second month she slipped up a few times. This last month she has gone back to her old ways. Last weekend a turning point.”
“I bake it’s hobby. I made cake. After dividing it into eight I left it in the fridge while I went out with a friend. Usually when I bake and friends drop me off I will fetch a few slices and thank them for the lift home with the cake. Imagine my surprise when I saw that each piece had a bite taken. I phoned my friend that I owed him cake and he needn’t wait for me to come back down.”
“I was angry. I told her that she embarrassed me and we needed to figure out a solution. She went defensive and said she ate it due to loving me so much. That all women do this and guys love it. I made it very clear that she needed to stop now or there would be consequences. Next day I bought a lockbox for the fridge. She was livid, but couldn’t do much. Last night she broke the lock and had taken a bite out of all my snacks and two slices of baguettes in there.”
“I told her to pack her stuff and leave while I stay with my mother for a few hours. She called me AH for making her homeless and possibly ruining her employment opportunities.”
After receiving a lot of support on his original post, he posted an update post on Reddit where he ended the post saying:
“Thank you for all the good advice from everyone. I feel I made the right decision to leave and am happy to be single although I do miss a warm body in bed. Stay safe and before going into a relationship have clear boundaries AND STICK TO THEM. That is what I am taking away from this experience.”
“I am off to brush up my geography and current affairs.”
The Responses
Everyone on Reddit unanimously supported this man for what he did. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the best responses:
Steamedfrog said:
“I would actually say that almost NO women do this…what a bizarre power move. NTA, but good riddance to bad girlfriend”
thediabolicalpotato wrote:
“This. Also, a SINGLE bite from EVERY piece? And then breaks the lock box and eats a bite from every snack? This seems intentional at this point. NTA but your girlfriend is.”
Odd-Jackfruit-2375 commented:
“That is not ‘cute’ and the fact that she thinks it is shows complete immaturity. Taking a bite out of EVERY slice of cake doesn’t show love, it shows selfishness because nobody else can have a piece. She will likely be a controlling, possessive partner as time goes on and you’d be so much better off not just kicking her out but ending the relationship as well. NTA.”
Both of his posts have thousands of comments, you can read them on the original post here & the update post here on Reddit.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this man’s story? Do you think he did the right thing or should he have dealt with it differently? Share your take in the comments below.
Source: Reddit
