Husband Asks If He’s Wrong for Following His Mom’s Advice About His Breastfeeding Wife

We are happy to write about a positive in-laws’ story today. While a lot of what we share is mostly about in-laws getting in the way of the married couple, this one is actually wholesome and the mother-in-law is trying to do her best to help her son’s wife – it just fills our hearts with joy and happiness.

The Story

A Redditor and husband, Specific_Paint8017, posted his story on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) explaining how his mother tried to help his wife during her breastfeeding issues. He wrote:

“My wife gave birth recently. She’s been trying to breastfeed (our baby doesn’t like formula and can’t latch onto the silicon nipple properly) but she has a hard time because she isn’t producing enough milk.”

“My mom who was a midwife said it was because of stress and that my wife was too stressed out to make enough breastmilk. The doctor and the lactation consultant confirmed that stress does impact the flow of milk. My wife’s work has been pinging us even though she has six months of maternity leave.”

“My mom moved in with us to help with the baby. My wife’s family lives too far to be anything but moral support. She’s been making my wife food (stuff that helps with milk production), making my wife rest, making sure she gets enough sleep.”

“My mom suggest my wife lie in a quiet, dim room, and I or my mom would rub her feet or her shoulders or would stroke her hair (both these things soothe my wife) and just let her feel relaxed. This has actually worked the best. The important part is to start the process before the baby is hungry.”

“My wife has an incredibly irritating childhood friend, Becky. Becky is the worst type of soul sucking person. She makes a sh*tty problem and runs to my wife to fix it. My wife is reluctant to stand up to Becky because Becky was the only girl who didn’t make fun of her in their childhood. That’s because she treats my wife like her personal servant.”

“On Sunday, Becky came over because the man she was hooking up dumped her and plus she spent all her money on booze and weed and couldn’t afford rent for the month which she was already late on. She expected me to call my wife down so that she could fix her problems. I said no and told her to leave, because my wife was breastfeeding. She insisted and tried to sneak past me and enter our house. I told her that my wife was breastfeeding and that she could not be disturbed, as per my mom’s suggestions. I told her that she would stress out my wife with her problems and if she wanted to come in she couldn’t talk about them at all”

“She called me controlling and a momma’s boy and friends of my wife later texted me calling me an asshole. My wife says she doesn’t care that I told her to leave but said I could be gentler about her problems.”

The Responses

Redditors thought this was going to be another post of a mother-in-law trying to be negative – but they were pleasantly surprised and supported this husband for what he did. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the best comments:

Slow-Bumblebee-8609 wrote:

“NTA. I thought this was going to go towards you trying to control your wife, as so many posts on AITA go. I’m so glad that isn’t the case.”

“It doesn’t seem like your mother is there lording over the house and forcing your wife to do X, but that she is a professional giving good advice and ideas, that both you and your wife chose to follow them and they seem to be helping.”

“Your wife has enough worries and stress right now to be bothered by some self centered user. If she’s okay with what you did, who cares what Becky thinks?”

PrudenceLeFeve is still in awe:

“I mean, NTA, obviously.”

“And also, do you think your mom would like to adopt me? She’s sounds great lol”

Apocalypstik wrote:

“NTA. You just sound like a good partner looking out for your wife and baby. Maybe you could have gone easier—idk. That Becky woman sounded pretty pushy”

CorvusOmega rightfully pointed out:

“NTA. We all know what kind of friend Becky is. She’s there to use your wife financially and emotionally. This is a trying time for any new mother and parent. I definitely think your wife needs to really sit down with you and have a conversation about this so-called friend. She’s not actually there for your wife. Of course, your wife’s health comes first. It might not be best to have a difficult conversation right away, but it seems like you and your wife will need to discuss. Becky. I really do think your mom in this case is not overstepping, unlike so many other moms on this site and subreddit. I think she actually has some good advice. You’re doing right by your wife and that’s what’s important.”

Awkward_Joke_5748, like everyone else, called Becky the source of the problem:

“NTA Becky is a horrible friend who is a energy sucker. Toxic friends like her should just stay away, also baby may sense she is a bad person and cry when she is around him. Good for your wide not giving up on bf. I had three kids and my oldest I hurt to bad and quit.”

Malibu921 supported and praised the husband:


“You are protecting your wife, and if she agreed, then that’s all that matters. The other friends only got Becky’s story and I’m sure she made herself out to be a victim.”

This post has over 1.1k comments at the time of writing this article, you can read them on Reddit here.

Our Take

We think this husband is definitely NTA and his mother is very caring. Both the husband and his mother want what’s best for the wife – which is something we don’t get to see every day. We’re happy this wife is in good hands, but Becky needs to know some boundaries.

What’s Your Take?

What’s your take on this story? Share your take in the comments below.

Source: Reddit

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