Red flags. Don’t be foolish enough to ignore them. These red flags serve as warnings and cautionary signs for you to exit a situation that might potentially cause you some harm or discomfort. That is why whenever you are just starting to date a guy, it’s important that you keep your eyes peeled out for any potential red flags that he might be exhibiting with his behavior.
Of course, you want to be seeing the best in people at all times. You always want to be maintaining a positive outlook in life. However, you still want to make it a point to keep yourself guarded and protected. That’s why you want to keep vigilant. If you see that he is exhibiting sketchy behavior at the start, then it would be easier for you to walk away from him.
1. He never gives you a proper answer when you ask him personal questions.
Whenever you try to ask him something about his life, he always gives you really vague and dodgy answers. It’s like he’s deliberately trying to keep you from seeing the bigger picture.
2. He doesn’t come off as sincere with what he says.
He doesn’t really come off as sincere with what he says. You get the sense that he’s not giving you all of the details. You get the feeling that he’s hiding things from you. You just somehow can’t bring yourself to trust what he’s telling you.
3. He looks down on you and belittles you.
He looks down on you. He is constantly insulting you and making you feel bad for yourself. He belittles you and demeans you. He feeds into your insecurities and he makes you feel like you aren’t good enough to actually be with him.
4. He grows distant towards you if you don’t have sex with him.
This is blatant proof that he’s only in it for the sex. It’s either you give him sexual pleasure or you end up not mattering much to him. You never want to be with a man who only wants you for your body.
5. He doesn’t make an effort to make your life easier.
He doesn’t really try to make a serious effort to make your life easier. He is just coasting along your relationship as if you’re not even together. He doesn’t really try to run errands for you. He doesn’t try to make you feel like he’s a partner that you can count on.
6. He refuses to meet your friends and family.
He doesn’t really seem interested in meeting the important people in your life. In fact, he might even be reluctant to open up to your social circle. And this is all because he doesn’t want to be establishing close relationships with the people closest to your heart. He doesn’t plan on sticking around long enough for these people to matter to him.
7. He imposes double standards in the relationship.
He so willingly enforces all sorts of double standards in your relationship. He goes out all of the time with his friends. He talks to girls that he meets randomly at bars and clubs. But he scolds you every time you engage in a conversation with a guy regardless if you’re friends with him or not.
8. He doesn’t accept his faults and mistakes.
He is someone who doesn’t want to acknowledge the fact that he is imperfect and flawed. He doesn’t want to admit to you or to anyone else that he is prone to making mistakes. He is just far too proud to do so. His ego won’t allow him to just be humble and accept that he doesn’t always do the right thing.
9. He flirts with other girls in front of you.
He openly flirts with other girls in front of you. He doesn’t care so much about how this flirting might make you feel. He doesn’t care about the pain that this might cause you. He’s just concerning himself with his own primal desires. And obviously, he’s still looking to keep his options open.
10. He doesn’t want to define the relationship with you.
This is a blatant sign that he just isn’t ready to commit to you just yet. He obviously isn’t ready to get serious with you. If he refuses to define the relationship with you, it’s all because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. He’s just looking to string you along this walk of uncertainty.
11. He is very self-obsessed and egotistical.
It can be very problematic whenever you get into a relationship with an egotistical individual who only ever really thinks about his own needs in the relationship. You need a partner who is going to want to take your own needs and expectations in the relationship into consideration as well. There isn’t enough room for you in that relationship if he won’t let go of his ego.