Guys, do you agree?
Trying to navigate our what through this world and the relationships that we forge with other people is no simple feat. Conflict is lurking everywhere and we always want to make sure that we conduct ourselves with tact and poise when interacting with the people we encounter on a daily basis. There are some relationships that we’re just not meant to be a part of; and there are some relationships that we have to fight to keep alive. And that’s just the nature of life really.
You have to make sure that you don’t let your good relationships go to waste especially romantic relationships with great women who are good to you. Now, just because the both of you get along and things are going great doesn’t mean that you’re not doing anything wrong that could potentially jeopardize your romance. There are many factors that go into making a relationship work. And there are plenty of men all around the world who are unknowingly destroying their relationships without necessarily intending to.
It’s important for you to always maintain a sense of introspection in your relationships. You never want to approach your most intimate relationships in a nonchalant manner. You always want to make sure that you are nurturing them to the best of your abilities and you’re not doing anything detrimental.
And if you are completely clueless, then this article is for you. If you find that some, a lot, or all of these things in this article apply to you, then you need to make the necessary corrections. You don’t want to end up as the guy who lost a perfectly great girl just because you didn’t know you weren’t doing right by her. Here are the 10 most common mistakes that guys make in relationships.
1. You don’t practice mindfulness and presence whenever you’re with her.
Whenever you spend time with your girl, make sure that you actually spend time with her and her alone. Don’t let distractions get in the way of the time that you have to bond with one another. Practice full presence every moment that you have together and make her feel like you’re always focused on her. Let her have your full attention.
2. You don’t make an effort to try to understand her.
Men and women are inherently different. But that doesn’t mean that you should be content with not understanding one another. Try to always make an effort to see where she’s coming from. Try to see things from her perspective.
3. You get intimidated by her whenever she exhibits strength.
Let her be a strong and independent woman. And instead of letting that feed into your insecurities, just be proud of her instead. Support her in her resilience and strength.
4. You constantly prioritize other things over her thinking she’s okay with it.
Make sure that she feels that she is important to you. Let her know that you really value your relationship by prioritizing her on a consistent basis. She doesn’t want to constantly play second fiddle to other things in your life.
5. You are blind to how she really feels.
She isn’t always going to be able to communicate how she really feels on the inside and to some extent, that might be her fault as well. But that doesn’t mean that you should stop making an effort to try to find out what’s really going on in that heart of hers.
6. You don’t value the trust that she wants to give you.
It’s either you don’t really put an effort into establishing a bond of trust with her; or you break the trust that she has already given you.
7. You don’t give her the security and stability that she needs from you.
Be consistent. Be stable for her. Let her know that you’re in this for the long haul.
8. You become too self-obsessed in your relationship.
Remember that there are two people in a relationship. It can’t always just be all about you. You have to acknowledge that it’s not only your standards and expectations that have to be met. Your partner has needs that you need to be able to address as well.
9. You make her feel undervalued and unappreciated.
You have to make sure that you express your gratitude towards her. You have to make her feel like you actually give value to her presence in your life. Otherwise, she won’t really have a reason to want to stay with you. A girl never wants to be made to feel like her presence doesn’t matter.
10. You have no real direction or ambition in life.
If she doesn’t know where you want to go or what you want to do in life, she isn’t going to feel secure about being with you in a long-term relationship. Girls are always forward-thinking. She wants to know that the things she invests her time in now should pay off in the long run. She doesn’t want to waste time with a dead-end.
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