It’s sad to see when families don’t treat their children’s partners with the same love and respect they have for their own. They forget to welcome them and ultimately make them feel like they’re not one of them – there are limitless stories of such families, today’s story is one of them.
The Story
Redditor, NoTGoingThank, shared her story on AITA (Am I the A**hole?) where she talks about how her boyfriend’s mother got first-class flight tickets for everyone in the family but her. She wrote:
“My boyfriend’s parents paid for them, my boyfriend’s siblings and their SO to all go on a flight to Cabo for spring break. Becky his mom hasn’t seem to like me for some reason she always makes snide remarks about my parents blue collar jobs and my field is nursing.”
“We get to the airport and Becky got 7 other people first class tickets and me 1 coach ticket. She told me I was used to it and she had a free coach ticket so I should be grateful for going. They all did their express check ins and left me in the long line for me to think about what the heck is going on. I had to keep from crying the whole time in line. I got up to the counter and there was a baggage fee to me. My boyfriend at the time never once helped me through the coach line or said anything to his mom. I looked over at his mom’s smug face as I was about to pay the checked baggage fee. And I let all of my frustrations out on the attendant and started crying. Basically she said don’t go with that family sweetie they don’t appreciate you. Continues to cry and took my luggage and got out and got out of line with the super sweet check in woman. I was so upset on how I was treated and started crying on my boyfriend in the airport about how his mother was treating me.”
“I broke up with him at the airport and his mother was so embarrassed. I told her what a b*tch she was. My boyfriend has been blowing up my phone saying how could I do that to his mother and just back out of a vacation very last minute and wasted everyone’s time and money.”
The Responses
Redditors fully supported her for doing what she did. For context, NTA means “Not the A**hole.” Here are some of the best comments:
Complex-Lemon-371 commented:
“NTA, the check in lady was correct. If you would have got on the plane, you would have been treated like this for the entire vacation. It was absolutely the right decision to stand up for yourself. As far as wasting money, she said the ticket was free and I’m sure she didn’t spend much on your hotel accommodations. As far as wasting time, you wasted enough of your own time on a relationship with your boyfriend if he isn’t going to stand up for you. They are going to say that you should be happy for any kind of vacation and not look down on a coach ticket, but his mother was being pointedly rude to you.”
mumismatist said:
“NTA!”
“The fact she got seven (7)!!! other people first class tickets and yet magically the budget ran out when it came to you tells you everything you need to know OP.”
“Boyfriends mom was pulling a most a**holish power play on you, indirectly saying you’re not good enough for the family by directly refusing to let you fly in first class with them. “Hahahahah let’s put the garbage in second class where she belongs” – I bet she thought she was so damn smart with that move lol.”
“The fact that boyfriend didn’t even speak up once in your favor shows that he’s so deep in mommy’s back pocket that he’s either willfully or unknowingly refusing to recognise her appalling behavior and that’s a major red flag as well. As in run for the hills red flag.”
“You’re on the ground right now, but in the future you’re free to soar and find someone far better than a spineless momma’s boy and his garbage family.”
WillLoveCoffee4Ever1 wrote:
“NTA! Good for you! Had you gone, you would have been mistreated the whole time and I bet you anything, you would have made to feel like this vacation was a handout to you. The mother should have either bought everyone coach, gotten you a first class ticket, or your AH boyfriend should have switched his ticket and allowed you to sit in fc. That would have been the gentleman thing to do.”
This post has over 2400 comments at the time of writing this article, you can read them on Reddit here.
Our Take
Completely NTA. We think she saved herself from a terrible future by leaving her boyfriend. Her boyfriend shows a lot of traits of a toxic mother-in-law.
What’s Your Take?
What’s your take on this woman’s story? Share your thoughts in the comments below.
Source: Reddit
Completely agree. If you allow people to treat you that way they always will. The bf was despicable. Not standing up to his mother and allowing that to happen. He should have switched his ticket or spoken to his mother. Clearly the mother made you feel unwelcome from the start. Right decision. Get rid of the bf and don’t go on the trip. You’re worthy of bigger and better people and things!
Completely NTA, what a snarky bi”””, you would have been treated like dirt and made to feel like you were there only because the ticket was free, as for the “boyfriend” well kick him to the curb for good you need a Man not a mommas boy, how absolutely insensitive of him to leave you in line alone and just not even offer to pay for your upgrade to first class or just offer the person next to you first class so he could sit beside you. Glad you left and stood your ground she and he can kick fu**** sand! Hope they get eaten alive by sand fleas!!!
That kind of treatment and future mother-in-law’s remarks reveal what her future would look like with her boyfriend. Run, run and don’t look back. Never empower anyone to treat you with disrespect.
Good gosh! Run lady run! That family will never see you as the gem you are and if you even entertain his texts you’re giving him entirely too much of your time and emotions.
Yes I agree run as fast as you can against this so called boyfriend. You deserve alot better than him and his family.
She did the healthy thing. The mother was a major snobby witch.
I dated someone very wealthy and although I wasn’t seen as completely equal by her family at first, I was never treated the way she was.
She did the right thing a broken relationship is better than a broken marriage. The boyfriend would have offered to sit with her in the coach atleast.
NTA. That’s the rudest thing to do to someone. The mother should be ashamed of herself for treating anyone like that. The boyfriend not taking up for you is a good hint that he is a spineless, sorry excuse of a man. You are better off without them. The mother sounds like she’s the definition of a narcissist and you will never win with someone like that.
Coming from personal experience from being married to a mama’s boy, now divorced, you did better than me. I was young and dumb. Hands down, all respect to her
What an ugly family!!! Girl run and don’t look back!!!!! Be glad this happened now and not a second later. If anyone is a waste of time it’s your boyfriend. What a jerk! He sure isn’t a MAN! He’s a product of his witch of a Mother. NO Class!!! She wants to put down your family because they’re blue collar workers and you’re studying to be a nurse?!!! Girl you should have told them off more than you did!! Sh$&! I’m getting pissed off reading this! I want to tell them a thing or two myself!
Makes me wonder if she had gone on vacation if the mother would make her pay for her own meals & to join in family activities & outings while mother pays for everyone else. Makes me wonder if the mother would have made her pay for her own hotel room too after paying for everyone else.
You deserve so much better. I cannot imagine treating anyone like that. That boyfriend needs a slap as well. I am so sorry you had you go through this. What a nasty shower of shite they are!
Hell NTA at all!!! I would have lost it way before getting to the counter on that mama and her son! Good for her that it embarrassed them as well! I don’t even want to think about if she had gone, what or where would her hotel accommodations look like if that mama was in charge of that too! Snobby and no class in that family!