I may be single but I’m never going to settle for someone who is not going to Love me wholly.

Kaetlyn Summers Posted a year ago
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First things first, there is nothing wrong with being single or as it goes nowadays:

Love is so much more than a pursuit, it’s a destination, and we wander aimlessly from corner to corner to desperately find it. This pursuit teaches us the harsh realities of life. We cross paths with people with whom we have no compatibilities with. People who are just as lost as us, and they are trying to find the hidden treasures of love. Desperation can sometimes make us do terrible things. There is nothing wrong in being optimistic. There is nothing wrong in risking it but if you do it without giving it a thought, the little pieces of hope that you store within will vanish and this will shatter your resolve.

Sometimes, this leads to a situation where people stop believing in love. They call it a fairy tale and something that does not exist because they’ve been disappointed all their lives, but that’s not true.

#ForeverAlone. It is so annoying to know that there is this social pressure, where if you aren’t in a relationship, you are somehow missing out on something or that you are incomplete. Trust me, you are not. If you feel happy and content being single and enjoy third wheeling with your best friend and his girlfriend, do not give in to societal pressure and get involved in a relationship for the sake of it. That never ends well, trust me, I know. Sure, it feels great to have this person who dotes over you and is there for you always, but as soon as the ‘honeymoon’ period is over, you will regret it and try to end it and a whole bunch of people get hurt. You do not want that. 

The best thing about being in a relationship is that you are with someone who is your person, you are their number one priority and your universes revolve around each other. That kind of attention makes a person feel so special that it is not surprising that everyone wants to be in a relationship.

We all want to feel special and in pursuit of that feeling, we sometimes tend to jump into relationships, only to realize, after a while, that maybe the person we are with is not so perfect after all and maybe what we have right now is not exactly what we were looking for.

A lot of times in search for the hidden entity that is love, we tend to settle for people who are not worthy of us. We are so scared that if we don’t jump in on the bandwagon of love at the first opportunity, we will never get the chance to get on it again, and in doing so we make horrible mistakes and those mistakes leave scars that sometimes last a lifetime.

As a teen, way too many times I settled for less than what I was worth. I settled for guys who made me feel crappy, who broke me down, and who hurt me. Always thinking that is how relationships are supposed to be, that it’s not all love; always thinking that it was better than being single, that anything is better than being single. How wrong was I?

I think one of the most important things to do before you get into a relationship is to learn to love yourself, because that is the only way you will know your own worth. This will make you realize that you never want anything less than what you deserve. 

I have reached a point in my life where I have gotten over most of my insecurities and I love myself enough to know not to settle for anyone who doesn’t think I am good enough.

Yes, I am single and looking, but that doesn’t mean I am going to settle for being half loved. I would love to be with someone who I can laugh and cry with, who I can just sit silently in the dark with, who I can share my favorite music with; but I have been in enough relationships by now to know that, that someone won’t be a guy who doesn’t realize my worth, who doesn’t give me back all the love I give him.

Being single and looking doesn’t mean I want to get into a relationship for the sake of it. It just means that I know I am now ready to love someone while at the same time not letting them hurt me in any way.

This time around, I don’t just want to find someone who makes me feel great during the honeymoon period of the relationship or loves me out of some sort of obligation. This time around, I want to find someone who loves me for me, someone who doesn’t want to change me, who knows and appreciates my worth.

I want to find someone who builds me up, who helps me grow as a person and grows with me too.

To everyone out there: Love is not an obligation. You aren’t obligated to love someone because they say they love you. You don’t have to settle for people who are unworthy of the amazing person you are just because you think you won’t ever get this chance again, trust me, you will.

There are over 7 billion people on this planet and one of them is definitely for you, so why waste time on someone who isn’t even willing to give you their 100%.

Love isn’t something you go looking for; it’s an adventure that finds you. You aren’t going to find love in a girl who you talk to all day but the second you need her she isn’t there. You aren’t going to find love in the guy who takes you out for dinner but when it comes to giving you a shoulder to cry on, he isn’t there. You will never find love on a blind date or on tinder, the only place you will find love is within yourself and only then will someone come along who’ll be able to take that love and give even more back.

Till that happens, don’t settle for being half loved.