When it comes to dating and relationships, maturity is always going to be of the essence. Relationships are no small things and it’s always important that two people stay mature and strong throughout the stretch of it in order to sustain it. Even the slightest acts of immaturity would be enough to derail a relationship beyond the point of recovery. You could be totally in love with someone but that would never be enough to make a relationship work if they are just far too immature.
There are plenty of relationships that end in spite of two people still being in love with one another. And the reason that happens is that love alone is never going to be enough to sustain a relationship between two people. It’s going to take healthy doses of dedication, hard work, commitment, patience, understanding, and a whole lot more. And these are traits that people typically learn to develop and strengthen over time.
This is where maturity steps in. Sometimes, some people might be so immature to the point that they don’t really allow themselves to develop certain traits and characteristics that they might need to be in a lasting and sustainable romantic relationship. And so, what ends up happening is that they make too many mistakes that could prove fatal to the relationship even though they have the best of intentions.
That’s why if you happen to be in the market for a guy who you would be able to build the rest of your life with, then you’re going to want to make sure that you weed out the immature ones. But how do you know if a man is immature? Well, you’re going to want to seek out the signs. If a lot of these things apply to the guy that you’re dating, then it’s likely that he’s too immature to make a relationship work.
1. He still loves to party every weekend.
Not to say that people who go to parties are immature. But it’s usually not a good sign when a guy feels the need to always go out to parties every single weekend. Most mature men like to spend their weekends just working on side projects and skills. Not to mention all of the unnecessary spendings that comes with partying.
2. He still texts a lot of other girls.
He still texts a lot of women. It just goes to show that he’s not content with you. He’s trying to keep his options open. He’s still trying to play the field. Obviously, he isn’t sure about the intentions that he has for you.
3. He shows you inconsistency with his efforts.
He doesn’t really show you any consistency with his efforts in the relationship. He is hot and cold. He’s there for you one minute and you won’t be able to find him on the next.
4. He still keeps dating apps on his phone.
He’s a guy who still likes to keep dating apps on his phone. Obviously, he still wants to be playing the field. He’s not totally serious about committing to you and that’s why he’s still engaging in these dating sites.
5. He doesn’t make any efforts to plan a date.
He doesn’t really try to plan out dates with you. He’s mostly just interested in hanging out and chilling with you. He’s trying to keep it as casual as possible because he isn’t mature enough to take you and your relationship seriously.
6. He avoids deep and important conversations.
He doesn’t have the emotional and mental maturity to be able to engage in deep and intimate conversations with you. He’s always interested in keeping things shallow because that’s the only level in which he’s capable of operating.
He doesn’t really exhibit any real goals in life. He’s always just coasting and going along with the flow. He doesn’t know what he wants out of life and so he’s essentially just chasing temporary highs.
8. He refuses to make plans for the future.
He isn’t forward-thinking. The future obviously scares and intimidates him. That’s why he refuses to talk to you about the future of your relationship.
9. He refuses to define the relationship.
Defining the relationship is important because it is a commitment that two people make towards one another. It is two people who are accountable to one another. And a refusal to be accountable is a refusal to be mature.
10. He doesn’t have a steady source of income.
And of course, you can’t expect to build a life with a man who you are going to have to support financially just as the relationship is starting out. You want to be able to build a life TOGETHER with someone. And that means you can’t be the only one doing all of the heavy lifting.