1. He still lives with his roommates or his parents.
If he still lives with his roommates or his parents even though he’s already in his late 20s and he’s in supposedly serious relationship with you, then you know that things are off. He show a lack of drive and initiative in his life. It shows that he isn’t ready to handle the responsibilities of adulthood; and it especially shows that he isn’t ready to commit to being in a relationship with you.
2. He doesn’t really include you in the planning process of his life.
It’s fairly obvious that he doesn’t see a future with you when he doesn’t include you whenever he tries to make plans for himself. He doesn’t consult you at all when it comes to planning. Whether it be for short-term stuff like what you are doing for the weekend; or for long-term stuff like what you have planned for your career, he doesn’t really consult you.
3. He doesn’t know how to have healthy and constructive fights with you.
If you want a long-term relationship with this person, you’re going to have to know how to argue constructively. You’re going to have to be able to have mature disagreements and conflicts. If he’s too immature, then it’s probably because he’s really not ready to commit to being in a relationship with you. He shows an unwillingness to compromise. He proves that he isn’t ready to be in a serious relationship at this point.
4. He doesn’t express an interest in your goals and dreams.
He doesn’t ask you about what your goals and dreams are. This is a usual indicator of a man who isn’t interested in having a long-term relationship with you. He doesn’t want to immerse himself in who you are as a person and what you dream about in life. He is purely concerned about the short-term because that’s all he really sees you as: a temporary partner in his life.
5. He fails to introduce you to his family.
He hasn’t really introduced you to the people in his life because he doesn’t see you as a permanent fixture in his life at all. He doesn’t want to waste the time and energy of the important people in his life by introducing them to someone he’s just going to dispose of eventually anyway. He doesn’t really consider you to be a real partner that he can share his life with. And that’s why he doesn’t bother with introducing you to those who are closest to his heart.
6. He doesn’t make an effort to meet your family either.
He knows that he isn’t really going to be a permanent person in your life; and much like the reason stated for him not wanting you to meet his family, he doesn’t want to meet yours either.
7. He shows inaction and indecisiveness in your relationship.
He doesn’t really want to take initiative in your relationship. He always leaves everything up to you. He doesn’t take ownership of your relationship because he’s not really invested in it. He’s not at all that interested in the relationship with you to the point that he actually wants to take the initiative. He’s purely content with leaving everything up to you.
8. He still talks about or flirts with other girls in front of you.
He is obviously not committed to being with you if he’s still flirting with other girls even when you’re already there for him. He is obviously not serious about being with you if he’s just playing the field. He’s still keeping his options open because he’s not sure about wanting to spend the rest of his life with you. He’s not set on having you as a partner for the long-term at all.
9. He doesn’t fulfill his promises and commitments to you.
He says a lot of things to you; but he doesn’t really follow up on them. He doesn’t really live up to his words. He may seem like he talks a good game; but if he fails to follow up on his words, then he obviously doesn’t mean what he’s saying. He’s only trying to say the right things to get you interested. But he isn’t keen on following up on his words because he’s not interested in keeping you for long.
10. He chooses to spend time with his friends over you.
Not to say that you’re entitled to all of his time; but you should at least be one of his biggest priorities. He should always show a willingness to give more time to you and your relationship above other things. He should be able to consistently make you feel like you’re not just some casual girl who has randomly walked into his life. He should be doing his part in making sure that you feel special and valued.