Granted, we all have different tastes when it comes to sexual pleasures. But there are also some universal rules and guidelines that you can use to up your game in the bedroom.
Of course, you would always want to do whatever you can to make sure that your girl is happy and satisfied with your performance. You never want to find out that you’re underperforming in the bedroom.
And sometimes, to save you from having a bruised ego, your girl isn’t going to want to admit to you that you’re not just doing it for her. So that’s why you have to take it upon yourself to really find out what she wants from you in the bedroom.
You have to take the initiative to get to know your woman better so that you can do a better job at actually meeting her needs and expectations. Here are 10 things she secretly wants from you in the bedroom.
1. She wants you to be just as invested in her pleasure as you are in yours.
Don’t be selfish. That’s probably the number one golden rule. Be sure that you are addressing her needs just as much as she’s addressing yours.
2. Be responsible in your use of protection.
If she doesn’t have any plans of getting pregnant anytime soon, then you have to be able to respect that. If she doesn’t want to take birth control pills because she’s scared of the side effects, then you have to be able to respect that as well.
So that leaves you with the use of condoms. She’s not going to want to use the withdrawal method. That’s too risky. So even if you don’t want to use a condom, just respect her wishes. After all, it’s not you who is going to have to bear with a pregnancy if things go wrong.
3. Give her an opportunity to experience a climax as well.
Don’t get so caught up in just trying to reach the summit on your own. It might be easy for you, but it’s much harder for her. So make sure that you do some extra work for her because she definitely deserves it.
4. Be communicative without being annoying in the bedroom.
Don’t over-talk. But don’t under-communicate either. On the one level, you want to make sure that you’re not hurting her and that you’re doing what she wants you to be doing. But also, you don’t want to be killing the mood by talking more than actually doing. So it’s important for you to be able to strike that balance.
5. A well-kept and maintained bed.
Nothing is going to kill the mood faster than knowing that there are dirty stains on your bed and pillows; or if there’s a disgusting stench emanating from your sheets.
Don’t leave your bed unkempt and dirty. If you want a girl to actually enjoy lying down on your bed as you’re doing it with her, then at least give her some peace of mind about the cleanliness of your mattress.
6. Extra clothes for her in case she decides to stay the night.
If you want her to spend the night, at least make sure that you have a few shirts for her that she can borrow the next day. It’s the least you can do.
7. Very thorough and meticulous foreplay.
Yes, you might just want to get down to business. But you also have to remember that girls typically take so much longer to get into the mood than guys do. With you, it’s just a matter of kissing for a few seconds and you’re rock hard.
For her, it’s going to take quite a while before she’s totally wet and naturally lubricated. So just be patient with her and wait for her to get ready. Be methodical with your foreplay and try to make it as fun as possible.
8. Complete nudity.
Is it too much to ask if you just take off your socks before you do it with her? It feels really weird when she’s feeling you penetrating her and suddenly some cotton happens to rub up against her legs. Why don’t you just go all the way with your nudity as you should have in the first place? It’s much more intimate that way.
9. Expectations that are grounded in reality.
Don’t go into sexual escapades thinking like you’re in a real adult film. Be realistic about it. A lot of the time, sex can be very awkward and weird. But it doesn’t have to be if you learn to manage your expectations well enough.
10. An enthusiasm for oral deeds.
Hey, don’t lie. You love it whenever she gives you oral stimulation. And so the least you can do is to do it for her as well. Show some enthusiasm as well. Let her know that you’re happy about being able to make her happy. It really goes a long way with bedroom chemistry. And you never know how she’s going to reward you for your enthusiasm too.
Men, do you agree?
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