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10 Things She Secretly Wants From You In The Bedroom

Abigail Renee Abigail Renee | March 28, 2018 | 6 min read

Granted, we all have different tastes when it comes to intimate pleasures. But there are also some universal rules and guidelines that you can use to up your game in the bedroom. creating the perfect atmosphere often involves having essential pieces for intimacy evenings that enhance connection and romance. Think soft lighting, scented candles, and quality music that can set the mood just right. These elements work together to transform any setting into a sanctuary of passion and intimacy.

Of course, you would always want to do whatever you can to make sure that your girl is happy and satisfied with your performance. You never want to find out that you’re underperforming in the bedroom.

And sometimes, to save you from having a bruised ego, your girl isn’t going to want to admit to you that you’re not just doing it for her. So that’s why you have to take it upon yourself to really find out what she wants from you in the bedroom.

You have to take the initiative to get to know your woman better so that you can do a better job at actually meeting her needs and expectations. Here are 10 things she secretly wants from you in the bedroom. Creating a deeper connection with her will enhance your experiences together, making both of you feel more fulfilled. It’s essential to recognize that understanding intimacy in relationships goes beyond physical interactions; it involves emotional closeness, communication, and trust. By prioritizing these aspects, you can foster a more satisfying and passionate relationship. By exploring her fantasies and preferences, you create a deeper connection that enhances intimacy. Remember, understanding women’s desires in bed goes beyond physicality; it involves emotional insight and genuine communication. When you make an effort to engage with her on this level, it fosters a more satisfying and exciting experience for both of you.

1. She wants you to be just as invested in her pleasure as you are in yours.

Don’t be selfish. That’s probably the number one golden rule. Be sure that you are addressing her needs just as much as she’s addressing yours.

2. Be responsible in your use of protection.

If she doesn’t have any plans of getting pregnant anytime soon, then you have to be able to respect that. If she doesn’t want to take birth control pills because she’s scared of the side effects, then you have to be able to respect that as well.

So that leaves you with the use of condoms. She’s not going to want to use the withdrawal method. That’s too risky. So even if you don’t want to use a protection, just respect her wishes. After all, it’s not you who is going to have to bear with a pregnancy if things go wrong.

3. Give her an opportunity to experience a peak moment as well.

Don’t get so caught up in just trying to reach the summit on your own. It might be easy for you, but it’s much harder for her. So make sure that you do some extra work for her because she definitely deserves it.

4. Be communicative without being annoying in the bedroom.

Don’t over-talk. But don’t under-communicate either. On the one level, you want to make sure that you’re not hurting her and that you’re doing what she wants you to be doing. But also, you don’t want to be killing the mood by talking more than actually doing. So it’s important for you to be able to strike that balance.

5. A well-kept and maintained bed.

Nothing is going to kill the mood faster than knowing that there are dirty stains on your bed and pillows; or if there’s a disgusting stench emanating from your sheets.

Don’t leave your bed unkempt and dirty. If you want a girl to actually enjoy lying down on your bed as you’re doing it with her, then at least give her some peace of mind about the cleanliness of your mattress.

6. Extra clothes for her in case she decides to stay the night.

If you want her to spend the night, at least make sure that you have a few shirts for her that she can borrow the next day. It’s the least you can do.

7. Very thorough and meticulous intimacy.

Yes, you might just want to get down to business. But you also have to remember that girls typically take so much longer to get into the mood than guys do. With you, it’s just a matter of kissing for a few seconds and you’re rock hard.

For her, it’s going to take quite a while before she’s totally wet and naturally lubricated. So just be patient with her and wait for her to get ready. Be methodical with your intimacy and try to make it as fun as possible.

8. Complete undressed state.

Is it too much to ask if you just take off your socks before you do it with her? It feels really weird when she’s feeling you deeply intimate her and suddenly some cotton happens to rub up against her legs. Why don’t you just go all the way with your undressed state as you should have in the first place? It’s much more intimate that way.

9. Expectations that are grounded in reality.

Don’t go into intimate escapades thinking like you’re in a real explicit video. Be realistic about it. A lot of the time, intimacy can be very awkward and weird. But it doesn’t have to be if you learn to manage your expectations well enough.

10. An enthusiasm for oral deeds.

Hey, don’t lie. You love it whenever she gives you oral stimulation. And so the least you can do is to do it for her as well. Show some enthusiasm as well. Let her know that you’re happy about being able to make her happy. It really goes a long way with bedroom chemistry. And you never know how she’s going to reward you for your enthusiasm too. Intimate gestures to strengthen connections can take many forms, from simple compliments to more personal touches. These moments of affection not only enhance your bond but also create a safe space for both of you to express your desires and preferences. Ultimately, the more connected you feel, the more fulfilling your experiences together will be. To enhance the connection between you two, consider ways to create an intimate atmosphere at home. Soft lighting, soothing music, and a comfortable setting can elevate the experience, making your time together more memorable. It’s those little touches that show you care and can deepen your bond even further.

Men, do you agree?

What can you tell from experience on this matter? Talk to me in the comments below!


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Joey webb · July 31, 2022

Absolutely agree 💯

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Raghib · August 1, 2022

Yes it save and game

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Jenni · August 1, 2022

You obviously haven’t chosen the right female. And if you “give” and she doesn’t, then you can take pride in the fact that you tried. Giving oral gets me excited but if i never get it in return, i stop giving it. Also, i address it later with him. Calm conversation about it. Comunication is HUGE!

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Abigail Renee is a writer based in New York with a background in psychology and over five years of experience covering relationships, love, and personal growth. She is known for her candid, thoughtful perspective on the complexities of modern relationships, and believes that honest conversation is the foundation of any meaningful connection. When she is not writing, she is exploring new restaurants, listening to Coldplay, or rewatching her favourite sitcoms from the 2000s.